Handling the Past

 

Where do you turn?

 

Everyone has a past, there is no way to escape it, no matter how hard you try.  Most of time the past is filled with memories of friends, family members, and experiences. For the most part, many of us seem to move on from the past and live in either the present or future.  Today, lets discuss the past and how to handle it.

The first thing on the past is friends. We all have good and bad memories of all our friends. The person they were back then is who we remember and that is probably what they may still be like if you don’t seem them for a few years or that often. Is this always the case? Do people ever truly change or do they stay just how you remembered them a few years ago?

Truly a little bit of our past last with us, so the person we once were five years ago is still inside of you. Some of us may even have that person come out in full force when old friends are around and go back to old habits. The issue to face here is, you aren’t that person and they aren’t the same person from when you were kids. They may have a family, a powerful job, down on their luck, or totally lost.

In a way we have to get to know our friends all over again and adjust to the new person in front of us. Now, the bigger issue is if they haven’t changed and still live in the past. This is a pretty big scary sign, as it may have been great to be that way back then it may not be now. Some people can’t move out of the past, which brings me to the next point.

Time to move on from the past my friends! You can’t live in the past and all the great things that happen back then. By holding onto the past you can miss out on the changing world around you. The past is great, but shouldn’t be where you live. For example the forty to fifty year old people who decide they are as cool as their son and daughter. Dress like they did back in the day or like their kids. That’s not being yourself and maturing with the time. Let your kids be kids and let yourself be your age.

I am not trying to say ignore the past or grow up 100% and have zero fun. Just place the past where it belongs, in the past. Laugh, joke, and cry about the memories of friends, families, etc. That is truly great to do, but don’t dwell back there. We all have demons hiding back there in our past waiting to surface to cause pain and suffering to our lives now. You can’t go back to the past, no matter how hard you try. Life goes on without you there and people change.

In the end, remember people and yourself change. The person you knew in past that was your friend maybe 95% different then they were back then. Embrace the new person and embrace all the changes around you. Never forget the past, but don’t live and dwell in it.

Learning how to handle the past is a trick to survive in this Savage World; that you are no longer living in, but beginning to own!

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About J F Savage
James Savage is a young business owner in the city of Lexington, Kentucky. In 2006, James earned his bachelor's degree in Communications from the University of Cincinnati. Two days after he graduated, James moved down to Lexington, KY as a business partner for Savage Syndications. Here we are years later and James is becoming a force in the business world. He is now CFO and partner of the company. Not many can do what he can do with list building and client relations. Also James was married to college sweet heart Alyssa in August 2008. The happy couple is working hard on making the house perfect and making sure the two puppies are always happy.

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