Seeing the Other Side of Things

The other side huh?

In life we are going to have friendship, relationships, clients, coworkers, etc. that we need to look from their view. This seems like an easy task, stating you know where the other is coming from and understanding. Sadly, this is easily misunderstood from what we really see.

I want you to take a second and think about how many times you actually placed yourself in the other person’s shoes. Yes, I know you have and done it before, right? Well, maybe, maybe not?  This requires a high level of skill and care that is just sometimes hard to come by. Now, I am not saying you can’t do it or haven’t done it, this is just a very hard skill to process.

Most of we use the word “I” too much in our statements, which causes people to believe that you aren’t placing them in your thoughts during the conversation. This is step one, drop the word “I” from your vocabulary for the most part. Work on making more “You” statements. Don’t fake it, really talk about them and understand their process.

Now how to understand the way someone is thinking, it’s actually thinking on how you would respond if you were the one on the other side.  Really focus on the other person by taking in the news yourself.

For example you are the boss and you have to fire an employee.  This person that is about to be fired could have a wife and children or single but just starting their career. For whatever reason, you are about to forever change their world. You are about to be blamed for making them unemployed in this economy. This person has to be going through the fear as where’s my next check coming from, what am I going to tell my family, etc. Then you deliver the news know their fears, discussing the reasons, and finding a connection to help them move through the motions a little better.

Just place yourself in their shoes and it makes the conversation easier. Yes, “I” statements are going to come out, but try to be wary of them. Understand who you are talking and understand their pains and needs. The choices you make can some times hurt and can’t be undone.

Understanding the other side of things is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!


About J F Savage
James Savage is a young business owner in the city of Lexington, Kentucky. In 2006, James earned his bachelor's degree in Communications from the University of Cincinnati. Two days after he graduated, James moved down to Lexington, KY as a business partner for Savage Syndications. Here we are years later and James is becoming a force in the business world. He is now CFO and partner of the company. Not many can do what he can do with list building and client relations. Also James was married to college sweet heart Alyssa in August 2008. The happy couple is working hard on making the house perfect and making sure the two puppies are always happy.

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