Rub Some Dirt In It

Rub it in and Stand up

Wow, it’s been awhile since this old blogger has posted anything and to my readers and followers, I am sorry for the delay. Lets, say my 30th birthday month was well busy. Been everywhere from Boston to Cincinnati to back down to Lexington. The business and personal life has kept me slammed here and that is no excuse for being gone so long. So without further ado, let’s get this Wednesday started off right!

As some of may or may not know, recently I decided it was time to do something big in my life. After 30 years on this Earth, I never ran  a 5k. or more  As they say, go big or go home, well this blogger decided to go big! On October 21, 2012, this guy is running the Tough Mudder in Maysville, KY. Don’t know what the Tough Mudder is? It’s a 12 mile course filled with military grade obstacles. Maybe a little to harsh to start off on, but it needs to be done. This is not a race of any kind but a test of endurance, strength, and will for yourself. This brings me to my point today, rub some dirt it!

What? Rub dirt in it? Dirt in what? You ask. Well, here’s the thing is, I read a lot of times all over the place about this company coming out support a belief you don’t, or you’re tired and sore and don’t wanna do something cause it is too hard, or you just tired of the country you live in and hate this or that. Today, I am telling you to rub some dirt in, stand up, and get back on the horse. You don’t like a belief of a company, great don’t go there or don’t eat there, but don’t cry about it on your Twitter, Facebook, Linkedin, etc account. You are tired and sore, unless you have a medical condition, stop crying, posting on Facebook and other media outlets, truth is NO ONE CARES! So just cowboy up and get back on the weights, job , or whatever you are sore from. Finally the people who hate their country, you hate it so much the border is to the South, North, East, and West go there. But when you live this Freedom you know that cost a small price of rules and taxes is a lot easier than other places, the grass is always greener, so think on that the next you complain.

The trick to a good, easy, enjoyable life is to just let go of the negative. Yes, at times we get down on ourselves, we can get mad and need to blow of steam, that’s okay and healthy. Don’t think you need this 100% positive lifestyle, because you will get mad, sad, upset, etc. It’s how you let it affect your life and the others around you.For example, I post a Good Morning Facebook everyday, people love it or hate , but no matter how someone responds, this post affects them. Though, if they took the time to read it and go, “Hmm, it can be a good morning” and go about their day, then maybe it did it’s trick. So it’s either a good response or a bad response, and if the person thinks of it as a thing to post negative towards or message me in a negative manner about it, then maybe they should rethink their life. Don’t ever spread the hate and negative feelings, the rule goes back to “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Just manners and I think some of us lost that along the way. Sending positive vibes may sound corny, but it helps you and the world around you get along better.

If someone one seems to happy to be true, note they have issues like we all do, they just don’t like to share as much of the pain. This is a lesson in life we need to learn. Pain is temporary and should be seen as that. People who seem to be really happy know this and can master both the negative and positive in their lives to be okay.  Don’t let the world bring you down and don’t bring the rest of the world down with you. Focus on finding ways to make you happy and dumping the negative aspects out of your life. Stop crying about the grass is greener, cause chances are when you go over to that green grass it won’t look so green. The trick to have greener grass, is to work hard on your own yard to have it blossom into greener grass. Nothing comes easy, but with a lot of work and a positive attitude you will see the success.

Today, I want you readers to focus making yourself happy. Write a list of things you want to change over the course of the year and then work on it starting today. In a years time see what you can do. Share it with us, we would love to read about your success.

Rubbing dirt in your wounds and getting back up is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

 

The Curtain is Down, the Drama is Over

The curtain is closed!

The other day I was enjoying a live show from this band I really enjoy. The crowd was small, but it was supposed to be and it was an all ages show. It wasn’t the band that made the biggest impact there, it was the drama that was aired out publicly in the parking lot afterwards. A son and mother were having a yelling match, the son was scolding his mother in broad daylight, in front of about twenty people, telling her that it’s all her fault.  The men in the crowd drew close to make sure the son didn’t do anything stupid as the bartender ran out to end the drama. Moments later the mother left with her head down and the son walked cocky towards a group of people who shook their head. End of the story, the scene was straight from a movie, but not with a good ending. There were no hugs, no resolution, just a son and mother with issues for the whole world to see, with the son looking like a jerk.

Maybe, I was lucky and didn’t have mommy issues or daddy issues. Maybe I took all the things that could have held me down and used them as fuel to become better and not worried about the past. People, parents, and friends aren’t perfect, they make mistakes and probably don’t realize it at the time.  The end of the day you can’t sit in a corner and blame everyone else for your problem, you are there and it may stink, but it’s your job to get out of the problem. If they caused it, find ways to get out of it and move on. You can’t live your whole life in hate and drama, what does it do for you? Nothing. Yes, I may not of had parent issued, but was bullied and teachers who told me I would never be anything, etc. I used every ounce of energy to become the best person I can be without being a bitter man..

What does leaving in the past do? Keeps you stuck behind the rest of the world. Yes the past is great to remember to know where you come from, great memories, things that failed, things that you learned, etc. Though once the day ends, the curtain is over on that day and it’s time to move on. People are going to hurt you, people may say things in jealous, rage, hate, etc. It’s your job to get out of that issue and yes, I am aware some issues are harder than most to get out, those cases are not the issue today. Trick is you need to remember who you are, build on that for the present and future. Show the world the positive amazing force you have become! Don’t dwell on your pain and sorrow, that just gets you stuck in a dark corner.

Remember that you are an awesome person, no matter what someone else said or did to you. Having issues with you parents, talk to them, don’t yell and don’t do it publicly. Issues with friends or family, tell them, don’t hold it in, but don’t yell and if they start getting mad, end the convo and tell we can talk when they are ready to. Don’t let others bring you down and don’t let others run your life. Drama is overrated, but thanks to Facebook, MTV reality shows, etc. we think drama is great now! Because it’s cool to live life-like a gangsta, being a teen mom, having issues with people, etc. It’s just time people drop the curtain and end the everyday drama and move on.

Life is too short for drama, make it a positive day every day from here on out and if someone tries to bring you down. Tell em no and move on, no one should ever steal your sunshine.

Striving for a drama free life is key  in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

The Hard Climb Upward

Never Give Up

Six years ago, I was fresh out of college and ask to partner in a company a small distance from my college city. I was excited, inexperienced, scared, nervous, and eager to get going. Had a very cool first client that was in the heart of the city and was pretty dang fun to work with. On the cutting edge at times it seemed and I was doing some amazing work. Quickly and without notice this awesome clients investors, decide to pull the plug and start axing jobs quickly. Our company was the first to go without warning, went home one day and never went back.

After the end of my first client which was about four months in, the company had to start looking for new clients quickly. Now there was a lot of fear at this time and more downs then ups. I learned how to build a company from the ground up with the help of my partners. Slowly we rebuilt and within a year we were doing good, not awesome, but good. Then again the status of cool clients came in and they went pretty quickly, no matter how great of a job we did. We were force to rebuild and we did, but this time it has been two years since the fall of our first major client and we learned from mistakes. We built up a name for ourselves, starting all over for the third time and working on how to build a stronghold, piece by piece, brick by brick.

Here we are six years later and we are stable and building still, but the fear will always be there, but not around every corner like the past. We continue to grow, expand, and learn new ways to build that safety net.  We are no where need the top, but every day brings us closer to where we want to be. I am okay with that, because I learned that nothing comes easy and if it does, how long does it last? The longer and harder we work for it, the longer and more successful it will last.

This story today is not to give a big detail of my company, but more to show you it takes time to get to where you want to be. Overnight success sounds awesome and does happen, just not a lot. Your awesome client or fun amazing that is too good to be true job, could be gone in a blink, because of all these different factors. True you see bands on TV and hear them on the radio and think, man they are lucky, truth be told, they busted their butt to get there. You look at an amazing business like Wal-Mart for example, Sam Walton started with nothing and was a small store before he came big, it took time and years.

Point is you want a successful career or your own business, stick with what works and going down the right paths. Yes there are pitfalls that seem to make you fall back a few steps, when honestly a pitfall is another lesson learned. You know the tools you need to do to become higher in your company or in your business world, which is education, experience, loyalty, hard work, and heart. Even if you think all is lost and you can’t be successful, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, just buckle down and get to work. No one gets anywhere by sitting on their butt watching TV all day.

Last bit of knowledge today and that is networking and being a good person. On your climb to the top, don’t shove people off and don’t ignore people who can be great allies to you. The more you push people away, the more they resent you, the more resent leads to higher damage as you climb. Help others even if they don’t help you for years later. Remember it’s always networking and knowing the world, you never know where a helping hand can come from.

Understanding your hard climb is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

 

Just a Little Effort…Goes a Long Way

Just a little more effort!!

Just a little effort in what you do in life can truly go a long way. Think about all the effort you place into something you care about and how you felt when you completed it. It just takes time and effort, every little once of effort you place into something, the better the outcome. For example this past week the lawn mower went down, we looked into replacing it and then noticed we could fix it. Instead of taking it to the shop, we decided we can fix it ourselves. It was just the blade, so it should be to hard right!? Wrong!! That blade was on there so tight, that it took days of getting the tools, WD-40, and the new blade. Once we had all the pieces and figured go the old bent blade off, we had the new on in no time. The end result was a $10 blade on the old mower and now it runs like new. End of the story is, that a little effort each day gave us the end result and saved about $100 on the repair cost.

The point of the story is that, if you work at it and keep finding new ways around things, you will get the task you want down. The more effort the better the outcome, does it come out perfect every time, nope, but what does. As long as you place the hard work and effort into something the more likely it will give you the outcome you want. Yes at times as you work on something it looks like it will never get done and you want to give in. Just don’t give in to early or get mad, that does nothing but waste your time and energy.

Many times we get lost in the whole project and how hard it is. When it gets hard, it means you just need more effort into it.  Nothing is impossible for you to do it and with the tools of the internet you can find out how to do anything now. Yes it will take time to do something hard, but once you do it the amount of the achievement is great! Remember that it may look hard right now, but just that little bit of effort makes it easier and in time it will work out and you will feel great!

Placing in that little effort in life is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

The World of Joy

Head on!!

To many times we are stuck in the right now and how things are. We listen way too much on what the world tells how we should act, dress, talk, etc. We listen to all our negative friends on the Facebook society and not see them in real life.  It’s time to start becoming deaf and blind to what some of the world tells you and listen to more positive aspects of your world.

Take this writer for example, he use to be a guy who was stuck in his own depression, worried about what everyone thought of him and always wanted to be the best. Thought it was cool to be depressed, because at the time movies and shows were all about the drama, guess that still goes on today (Thank you Twilight). It wasn’t till I learned that no one cares if your sad or upset for a long period of time. Sure there are times a loss of a loved one or friend, injury, etc. But usually if you are sad or acting negative, people don’t want to be around you, period.

If you stay in this mood of depression anti social and ignoring the hands that are out there, because you are just too cool and depressed for that, friendship will be lost. Instead you need to turn off what the world is telling you to be, find your inner joy. Are you going through a rough time? Find a way to make it better. In this process you better yourself and it’s not an overnight fix. Friends are there to help if you are willing to listen. On the flip side if you continue to be down and don’t want to pull yourself up, chances are you are going to drive people away.

Think about this, you push friends away who try to help and always been there, for other things like booze or parties, etc. Escaping the demons with outside sources that are a temporary fix don’t help. When you come back to Earth you will feel just as bad if not worse. The thing is you become the problem when you refuse the hands, when you refuse to pick yourself up. It’s when you slam the door on the negative attitudes and start focusing on making it better that’s when you start to solve the problem.

This writer understands the issues of depression been there a few times in my life. It happens and it’s nothing to be ashamed about, but talk and ask for advice when you need it. Don’t go around posting on Facebook how you can’t sleep or you hate your life or this person. Just focus on finding the issues and working your way out of it. Help comes in the forms of human face to face or phone to phone interaction. Nothing is solved by airing out your problems via social media.

Dealing with your problems face first is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

The Quick Post

Hello all in the world out here today! This is just a quick message to all the readers out there who are asking, where did the Savage go? Well, it’s been a little Savage like down here, but the world will come back up this week, I promise.

Last week, was a little crazy with concerts, weddings, travels, etc. Don’t worry the ideas are flowing and the knowledge is growing, this is going to be one heck of a Savage World for everyone soon. Get ready, cause soon, you will experience a wealth of blogging!!

Busy Does Not Equal Awesome

Just soo busy.. Please hold.

Lately, everyone is always so busy. With some many ways to communicate it almost seems impossible for someone not to send out a text, hop on Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, etc.  Just seems like everything you want to do has to be pushed back till tomorrow, than tomorrow becomes next week, then next month, then next year, etc. etc.  So what happens when work always seems to get in the way and you just can’t do what you want in life anymore? I am telling you when you say you are super busy to someone, it doesn’t make you as special as you think.

Here’s the picture I want you to have in your head. Picture yourself always running, going into work early, staying late, and then coming home to work again. Your friends, reach out to you but never can get a hold of you because your cell phone is usually used for work only. The house work, it can be done later or someone else can do it.  When you actually talk to your friends on your social media page, you just always say that your just so busy with work and your extra activities so you can’t talk or meet up. But it’s okay, you tell yourself you need to do this for work and to make it better for yourself there. Does that sound like you?

Now, on the flip side of what your friends and family are hearing from you. First off, when all you do is work and don’t help around your house. Your spouse takes on much extra pressure to clean, cook, take care of the kids, pets, etc. This causes a lot of stress on your spouse to do it alone, plush their own work, and lives.

On your friends view of this; when you say you are too busy to talk they hear that they aren’t important enough for you to take five minutes to talk or even grab some coffee. Maybe your friend is hurting and needs someone to just reach out and have a shoulder to cry on. Maybe they have great news they want to share with you. Maybe…they just want to hear from you and know about your world. When they can’t reach you, they lose faith in you and become to go, “Okay, it’s time to move on, cause I am done trying to be your friend.”

Finally your family needs to know what is going on. When you are too busy to stop by for a ball game, a party, etc. you send a message of how unimportant that family member is. This doesn’t go for brothers and sisters, but cousins, uncles, aunts, grandparents, parents, etc.  The two busy for your own family, can hurt more than you think. It’s okay not to go to every event, but when you miss them all it sends out a massive message.

The reason, I brought this subject up today is to hit a point. As you know from Monday’s blog a good friend of mine passed away last week. I really messed up as a friend at times, I wasn’t there for him all the time and didn’t do more to reach out. Always thought he would pull through and I would have all the time in the world, sadly I didn’t. My lost time with him can never be earned, because I was always to busy for him and that wasn’t fair. That’s not fair to my friends and family, so today this blogger is going to change it.

If you are one of those people who always is too busy. The ones who can’t put the work down and always has something else they need to do. Take a minute to breathe and reach out to friends, family, and loved ones. Place the work down for an hour a night, reach out through phone calls, e-mails, Facebook, text, etc. There is so many ways to get through to your friends now that there is no longer an excuse not to.

Don’t let the moment leave you, because you don’t know what will happen to tomorrow. Your friends and family are here for such a short time. The blessings they give us are truly amazing. Don’t let it slip away, because you were too busy for everyone and everything.

Being balanced is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Climbing Up a Waterfall

Climb it!!

In life the easiest way seems to be the best way. Why would people want to struggle when they can just coast through life. Seems like a good idea right? Wrong, coasting along down the river is not the way to go. Today we are going to talk about how to climb to the waterfall, instead of getting caught in the current and falling down the waterfall.

Trick in life is doing something that will scare you everyday. People can get comfy in life and just do what they are told. They don’t want to branch out and take that risk. People are scared that they may fail at something and they won’t be good at it. The question is, how do you know before you try? Why is failing so scary and bad? What you will find out you’re not perfect like the rest of the world, is that so bad?

Here’s the trick, go to a waterfall and start climbing up it. See how many people fall off the waterfall by just going with the current. You will notice more people falling from taking the easy way out, then the people climbing up the waterfall with you. Yes, you will slip and may fall all the way down only to start over again or you may slip a little only to get closer to the top.

Almost six years ago, I was finishing college and ready to take on the world. I had zero idea what I wanted to do or where I was going to find a job. Then the fateful call came in asking me to work with my family down in Lexington, KY and become a business partner. Seriously at the time, I was like its money and a chance for some experience. What was I thinking? Is what I ask at least once a quarter and then it happens, the one big client I needed comes in and all is right in my world again.

See the thing is, I slipped so many times from climbing this waterfall. While all my friends went down the river with the current. They had their comfy jobs with big name companies and were happy in their new house or apartment. I was struggling to get the company money in to get a pay check. At times it was down right scary, but I stuck with it and continue my climb up the fall and you know what, I am not where I need to be there, but I can see the summit is getting closer every month. You can truly do it too! Just try it and who cares if you fail?

What’s different from taking the hard way up then the easy way down, is you control it. My life is one-hundred percent mind and no one can take that from me.  I am not saying that everyone should start their own business, I am saying don’t follow the current downstream. You will hit the water fall and as I am going up you will fall down in time.  There are many different ways to climb up the fall and it’s not all about running your own business. You can decide you want to lose weight, hike more, see the world, see every baseball stadium, etc. Something different to make you happy, that’s what you need to do.

Today, you maybe saying I want a better job and more pay. Well, what can you do about it? You may need a higher degree, well go out and get it! Yes, it will cost money and yes it is scary, but if you believe in yourself and it then you can do anything.

So today folks, I want you to grab a rope and start climbing your waterfall. Don’t fear the water pounding on you or slipping down the rocks. Just do it, take that leap of faith and start climbing to the top. What you find on the summit is for you alone to enjoy.

Climbing your waterfall in life is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Holiday Spirit

That Cat Sure Has It!!

Last night when I was driving around town doing some Christmas shopping this strange little thing happen. As I pulled into Meijer’s to grab some shipping supplies, this little BMW pulled in behind me very quickly. As I got out of the car, the one lady stated, “We have been following me to have a quick word.” Now at this point, I was wondering what was going on and kind of worried. Then she said, “We followed you because of your Kia Soul has the Holiday Spirit!” (The car has antlers and red nose on it).  They wanted to film the car, talk with me for a moment, and offered over two lottery tickets and a free Cinnabon for me to enjoy.

It was truly an amazing, random thing that only seems to happen around this time of the year. Just gave me the biggest smile as I was walking into Meijer’s. True, they may have been promoting their company and trying to look great, but still it was the thought that count. The smiles on their faces meant that it was something they truly enjoyed doing and for that I was impressed.

The meaning of this little story today is the little things you do, the little things you do really shape the world. No small action goes unnoticed by the world, sure it may seem like it.

Today, reach out to a stranger, tell them that their car looks amazing or their earnings are beautiful and festive. Do this not for your own gain, but to just be a good person. Watch the response.

This world is beautiful, the people in it are amazing if you let them be. Sure there are bitter people out there, but mostly we are all just trying to live a good life. We can help each other by doing the small things in the world. Holding a door open, saying something nice, and just being a good person all around.

Today, get into the holiday spirit and play it forward. Do something that you wouldn’t normally do. Pay for the person behind you dry cleaning or cup of coffee. Doesn’t have to be something big, that small little thing can be just what that person needs.

Spreading the holiday spirit is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

The End of the Year

Almost Midnight!!!

Near this time last year, my wife and I were sitting around talking. We decided that 2011 was going to be the start of some amazing things. W planned and spoke about all the good things that can happen. As 2011 started, things started to look up and up. The deeper 2011 went, the more great things happened. All because we said, this going to be a great year. Sure we had some major hiccups this year with health, cars, and the house, but all in all we stayed strong, positive and supportive of each other. Always saying, this is our year to start it all right.

This morning, my business partner and I were doing our weekly meeting for the company. We were looking over this past quarters numbers and next quarter numbers. Then we said it, 2012 will be the start of what this company really needs, sure 2011 was amazing for us, but we just need one more month to kick it into a high gear. 2012, is the year we go from a company starting to make noise, to a company that is the good noise!

Reason for this story today is, you should do the same thought process. Really look at what you can do better next year. What do you want to change to make 2012 an even better year? Maybe you want more money, think about how you can do that and do it. Maybe you want a better love life, well look into how you can make yourself better to what you are looking for. Just always say 2012 will be better and it will be the best until 2013.

Focus on the positive vibes, stay away from the negative vibes. Do something that will make your life worth wild. Sure there will be rough and scary times in 2012, but don’t let that be your main focus. Smile and leave for this coming year, enjoy every moment good and bad. Make the best of everything you have and you will be surprised with the results.

Thinking positive in 2012 is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!