Break the Negative Circle

Follow Me Out of the Dark

In life it is easy to surround ourselves with negative things, people, and places. The tale misery loves company is very very true, and people who are sad want to bring you down with them. On the other end of the specturm, positive loves company too! True it’s easier to give into the pain and fall down the pit of misery and join the people down there.  The reason being is because more people are negative and ready to drag you under then those who are positive trying to pull you up. The question is who do you lean towards the cliffs of despair or the mountain of joy?

The other day I saw someone posting sad thoughts on Facebook about when will life get better and seeing all the response was shocking to me. People actually told this person that, “It may seem like it gets better only to be granted with more and more poo flung at you, cause life is one big giant poo storm.” This right here made me want to tell  that person to stop listening to them and allowing that negative person in their life. Then to that person who sent that response, I wanted to send him some kind words to not be a debbie downer.  Sad part, is you can’t these people to stop being negative, to stop listening to negative feedback,, and to stop sharing negative thoughts.

Today, I will tell all of you about the joys of positive attitudes as I always do. The negative people and feelings will always be there and it is easy to give into the demons of sadness, but you got to stay strong. The will to live keeps us going, the will to be strong keeps us alive, the will to be positive is the answer to one heck of a great life. Yes bad things will happen, but with a positive outlook you can find the silver lining and see how to work through the issue better. As a negative person when something bad happens it is blown out of the water and they are so blinded by negative thoughts that they just sink deeper and deeper without seeing things clearly. The negative person can’t think through the problems cause all they see is the pain, where as a positive person can take the step back and remove what happen and go through the steps one by one to figure out what to do to get through it.

In the end of the day, you can choose to listen to the group of negative people or join the few who are climbing and not listening to the nay sayers. It will seem hard to get rid of the people who are always down, see no light, and want to bring you down with them, but once you are free you will see the world in a different light. My advice is drop the negative in your life, that means all the drama on Facebook you need to close, all the drama at work you need move on from, and all the drama with friends you need to end. Step into the light and out of the darkest to see the beautiful world.

Leaving the darkness is key in this savage world; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!!

 

The Curtain is Down, the Drama is Over

The curtain is closed!

The other day I was enjoying a live show from this band I really enjoy. The crowd was small, but it was supposed to be and it was an all ages show. It wasn’t the band that made the biggest impact there, it was the drama that was aired out publicly in the parking lot afterwards. A son and mother were having a yelling match, the son was scolding his mother in broad daylight, in front of about twenty people, telling her that it’s all her fault.  The men in the crowd drew close to make sure the son didn’t do anything stupid as the bartender ran out to end the drama. Moments later the mother left with her head down and the son walked cocky towards a group of people who shook their head. End of the story, the scene was straight from a movie, but not with a good ending. There were no hugs, no resolution, just a son and mother with issues for the whole world to see, with the son looking like a jerk.

Maybe, I was lucky and didn’t have mommy issues or daddy issues. Maybe I took all the things that could have held me down and used them as fuel to become better and not worried about the past. People, parents, and friends aren’t perfect, they make mistakes and probably don’t realize it at the time.  The end of the day you can’t sit in a corner and blame everyone else for your problem, you are there and it may stink, but it’s your job to get out of the problem. If they caused it, find ways to get out of it and move on. You can’t live your whole life in hate and drama, what does it do for you? Nothing. Yes, I may not of had parent issued, but was bullied and teachers who told me I would never be anything, etc. I used every ounce of energy to become the best person I can be without being a bitter man..

What does leaving in the past do? Keeps you stuck behind the rest of the world. Yes the past is great to remember to know where you come from, great memories, things that failed, things that you learned, etc. Though once the day ends, the curtain is over on that day and it’s time to move on. People are going to hurt you, people may say things in jealous, rage, hate, etc. It’s your job to get out of that issue and yes, I am aware some issues are harder than most to get out, those cases are not the issue today. Trick is you need to remember who you are, build on that for the present and future. Show the world the positive amazing force you have become! Don’t dwell on your pain and sorrow, that just gets you stuck in a dark corner.

Remember that you are an awesome person, no matter what someone else said or did to you. Having issues with you parents, talk to them, don’t yell and don’t do it publicly. Issues with friends or family, tell them, don’t hold it in, but don’t yell and if they start getting mad, end the convo and tell we can talk when they are ready to. Don’t let others bring you down and don’t let others run your life. Drama is overrated, but thanks to Facebook, MTV reality shows, etc. we think drama is great now! Because it’s cool to live life-like a gangsta, being a teen mom, having issues with people, etc. It’s just time people drop the curtain and end the everyday drama and move on.

Life is too short for drama, make it a positive day every day from here on out and if someone tries to bring you down. Tell em no and move on, no one should ever steal your sunshine.

Striving for a drama free life is key  in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

The Hard Climb Upward

Never Give Up

Six years ago, I was fresh out of college and ask to partner in a company a small distance from my college city. I was excited, inexperienced, scared, nervous, and eager to get going. Had a very cool first client that was in the heart of the city and was pretty dang fun to work with. On the cutting edge at times it seemed and I was doing some amazing work. Quickly and without notice this awesome clients investors, decide to pull the plug and start axing jobs quickly. Our company was the first to go without warning, went home one day and never went back.

After the end of my first client which was about four months in, the company had to start looking for new clients quickly. Now there was a lot of fear at this time and more downs then ups. I learned how to build a company from the ground up with the help of my partners. Slowly we rebuilt and within a year we were doing good, not awesome, but good. Then again the status of cool clients came in and they went pretty quickly, no matter how great of a job we did. We were force to rebuild and we did, but this time it has been two years since the fall of our first major client and we learned from mistakes. We built up a name for ourselves, starting all over for the third time and working on how to build a stronghold, piece by piece, brick by brick.

Here we are six years later and we are stable and building still, but the fear will always be there, but not around every corner like the past. We continue to grow, expand, and learn new ways to build that safety net.  We are no where need the top, but every day brings us closer to where we want to be. I am okay with that, because I learned that nothing comes easy and if it does, how long does it last? The longer and harder we work for it, the longer and more successful it will last.

This story today is not to give a big detail of my company, but more to show you it takes time to get to where you want to be. Overnight success sounds awesome and does happen, just not a lot. Your awesome client or fun amazing that is too good to be true job, could be gone in a blink, because of all these different factors. True you see bands on TV and hear them on the radio and think, man they are lucky, truth be told, they busted their butt to get there. You look at an amazing business like Wal-Mart for example, Sam Walton started with nothing and was a small store before he came big, it took time and years.

Point is you want a successful career or your own business, stick with what works and going down the right paths. Yes there are pitfalls that seem to make you fall back a few steps, when honestly a pitfall is another lesson learned. You know the tools you need to do to become higher in your company or in your business world, which is education, experience, loyalty, hard work, and heart. Even if you think all is lost and you can’t be successful, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, just buckle down and get to work. No one gets anywhere by sitting on their butt watching TV all day.

Last bit of knowledge today and that is networking and being a good person. On your climb to the top, don’t shove people off and don’t ignore people who can be great allies to you. The more you push people away, the more they resent you, the more resent leads to higher damage as you climb. Help others even if they don’t help you for years later. Remember it’s always networking and knowing the world, you never know where a helping hand can come from.

Understanding your hard climb is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

 

LOUD NOISES!!!!

VERY LOUD NOISES!!!!

LOUD NOISES!!! PEOPLE MAKE LOUD NOISES AND YOU SHOULD LISTEN AND PAY ATTENTION TO THEM NOW!!!!! Okay, so here’s the deal, yesterday I was at the gym doing my normal workout and my biggest gym pet peeve came to play, the slamming of the weights.  For the record there is never a reason why someone should slam the weight unless they can’t handle it and over did it, which happens here and there, but should never happen over and over again. That’s the other reason it happens, to get people to look and say “My gosh they are soooo tough”. Honestly, that doesn’t happen. When really they can’t handle the workout they are doing and really in the end hurting themselves.

The point to the gym story is how this reflect on every day life. You are sitting at your house and a car drives by with a crappy stereo bumping it so loud it shakes your windows. Then there is the person yelling as loud as they can as they talk on the cell phone walking in the mall, and finally the people who have to boost about who they and what they do in a very public place where everyone can hear them. These type of people are the attention needers, they make loud noises for you all to hear and know they are important.

In life it’s okay to be cocky and sure of yourself at times, but there is never a need to yell, rant, slam weights because you want the world to think you are awesome. Truth be told, actions speak louder than words. When doing your workout just do the weights you can handle at a good pace without making giant noises. Don’t go around yelling about how awesome you are to a crowd that doesn’t care. Just do what you need to do, act don’t yell. People will notice you for who you and what you do, not how loud you are.

Remember today just be yourself, don’t be a loud person wanting attention that doesn’t do anything for you. Use your actions more than your loud noises. Yes they will get looks, but not the attention you like.  Just relax, calm, and stop yelling, slamming weights, and trying to be the loudest one in the room.

Not using loud noises is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

 

All About the Sun Today

Opening up!

Truth be told, I really want some rain here in Lexington and the past two days it just looked like was going to open at any minute and sadly it never did. Today is a different story, the sun is high in the sky this morning beaming down and not holding back.  Today just feels right, like the past few days the sun was fighting to come out, but the clouds were blocking its view.

Lets talk about the sun versus the clouds today and how it goes with your everyday life. Think of it this way, the sun is bright, makes you happy, and wants you to be out in it. The clouds and rain, want you to hide inside, can bring you down, and just can get you into a bad mood. Like the sun, when you are down, your brightness tries to break out of your depressing clouds. May not seem like it at times, but your sun is wanting to shine every moment it can

Clouds in your head are the fog that runs in during the morning, you really don’t know where it came from or why it’s there. All you want to truly do is get out of the funk the clouds put you in, so you can have a good day. Trick is you have to fight through the clouds with your sun, allow it to break free. Clear your mind of the troubles you have, or work through the issues so you can break free from it all.  Some days you have to work through the issues, other days you just need to  get the sun to come out a little bit more than usual. Once it’s out though, the world does seem brighter.

Not letting the clouds win is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Beautiful Day

Embrace the new day!!

What a beautiful day it is today and how great it can be, no matter where you are in the world. What? You say it looks gloomy and sad out? Are we not seeing the same thing? Probably not even if we were in the same town, I could see a beautiful sunny day and you can see a hot muggy ugly day.  It’s all the perception that we have as we go throughout our days.  It’s like the glass half full or half empty, how you see it is how you see the world around you. Today’s lets talk about this and the world we know.

Yes, I know this positive stuff gets annoying to some people and it’s sounds like a lot of work.  It’s easier to be down and sad, you can curl up into a little ball, cry, and think the world is ugly and gray. Today though that needs to end and you need to get out from under your ball and face the world to see that it is not as ugly as you make it. The world is how you mold it, yes there are bad factors in the world that can and will bring you down, but that is not your life. When bad things we have to do the right things that need to be done to fix it or grief over it.

Trick is in life is that when bad things happen, you need to get out of the hole you are in.  People will be mean to you, the sky may look to fall on top of you, and all seems wrong. This doesn’t mean the day is ugly or the world is ugly, instead it just means things are going the right way.  This will happen from time to time, but focusing on how to make it better and just know that the day is always beautiful will make it easier in the long run.

To touch on the earlier aspect of people annoyed with positive people, because it’s well probably annoying to a negative person or it just seems hard. If being positive is an annoying thing to be, then sorry rest of the world, positive attitudes make the biggest difference in our society. If you think it is too hard to be positive, then I want you to think of a world where you aren’t crying, yelling, fighting, etc all the time. Now image that not a factor in your life that much, picture just being happy and not fighting or crying every day. Sounds a little easier now right? Just makes the day a little bit more beautiful.

I know sometimes it seems like there is no help and you are stuck at the bottom of the well.  When then happens what you need to do is stand up, get motivated to find the way out, get out and do what you need to do. Once you are free from what ever is keeping you down in the dark well, then you will be free and able to enjoy the sun and beautiful days around you!

Enjoying the beautiful days is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Making the Sun Come Out on a Rainy Day

Always something magical in the rainy day.

Down here in Lexington, KY it’s a pretty rainy, ugly day for us. Well at least that’s how it looks when you look out the window.  Two things you can do on a rainy day that you need to be productive on; number one, let it get you down and gloomy, or number two look at it as just another sunny day wanting you to do your best so you can go enjoy the rest of the day! Yes, rainy days can bring you down, but don’t let them. Today lets talk about it.

The trick to rainy days is easy, just don’t pay attention to the fact that it is ugly out. You can’t change the weather so don’t let it change your mood. Many times we allow outside sources like the rain overtake our mood. Have a grumpy coworker who likes to bring everyone down? Do you let them? If you do then they are no different then the rain to you. Why let the weather or a coworker bring you down? Or is that just an excuse you like to use?

Thing is, the world is beautiful why let something outside of your own world bring you down so much that you are grumpy to? Makes no sense at all. What you should try to do is ignore the negative feedback, like the rain. Don’t let the Debbie downers destroy your day or life. Yes bad news will happen that you can’t ignore but for the everyday drama, just let it go. There’s no need that the rain can’t look like sunshine all the time.

Rejecting the down side rain is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

 

Busy is Good, Saying Your Busy is Horrible

NOT NOW I AM SOOOOO BUSY!!!!!……(watches the newest youtube craze)

You ever have those friends or people in your life that when ever you ask them how they are doing, they reply with, “Busy!” That’s it, no I am fine thanks for asking, or not really well, just I am busy. Yes this is one of my giant pet peeve because they show a few things, like they aren’t really listening to the question and they don’t care enough to give you an honest response. Being busy is what you are doing, not how you are doing and today, let us talk about it.

This subject has been discussed on here not to long ago and today I want to really stress the damage it can cause. To start things off it when you respond to a how are you questions, with something like busy, not now, etc. you come off like you don’t care. Though you may not see it, but people don’t like being told that someone else is busy when they are reaching out for a conversation. In fact to say Good is shorter then saying I am busy. This really showcase that you don’t care about the person to give them a nice response. Esp in today’s world with texting, facebook, cellphones, it’s easy to reply nicely with I am doing great, but can’t talk now, can we talk later? Instead of BUSY! Really, if you were so busy why did you pick up the phone, read the text, and then reply. Clearly you aren’t that busy.

This brings me to another point today and that is being honest. Facebook can showcase your lies very quickly and easily. You tell a friend you can’t hang out with them one day on the weekend because you are busy with work or family things and then you are tagged by another friend or yourself out with them in something completely different then what you said. Why lie and not say hey, I have plans with other people, isn’t that more understandable? The thing is, you just need to be honest with people, if you don’t want them around or don’t want to talk just tell em, yea it’s mean, but it’s easier then dragging out their friendship hopes, right?

In today’s world people love to sound busy, it makes us feel important. The problem is it really makes you sound like your poo doesn’t stink. Yes, you can say you are busy when people ask you about your job or how is the home life keeping you. But going around with that being your first answer to everything is well damaging.  In life you need to listen to the question before you answer it, don’t respond with just busy all the time. You say it enough, you will soon lose those people you say it too.  Which in the end if you didn’t care about in the first place that’s okay right? Maybe not, because maybe they shouldn’t have been let go.

Today, I ask that you stop responding with the term BUSY all the time. Respond nicely and be honest with the person. Don’t lie about what you are doing, cause Facebook will post you, because you or your drunk friend will post that you’re at Pete’s bar at 1:00 PM, even though you couldn’t go out tonight with the other group of friends because you had to stay home with your friend’s baby all night and day. Just be honest, respond to the right question and stop acting so busy, cause the moment you respond that on text, the moment we all know you just lied.

Being respectful is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Just a Little Effort…Goes a Long Way

Just a little more effort!!

Just a little effort in what you do in life can truly go a long way. Think about all the effort you place into something you care about and how you felt when you completed it. It just takes time and effort, every little once of effort you place into something, the better the outcome. For example this past week the lawn mower went down, we looked into replacing it and then noticed we could fix it. Instead of taking it to the shop, we decided we can fix it ourselves. It was just the blade, so it should be to hard right!? Wrong!! That blade was on there so tight, that it took days of getting the tools, WD-40, and the new blade. Once we had all the pieces and figured go the old bent blade off, we had the new on in no time. The end result was a $10 blade on the old mower and now it runs like new. End of the story is, that a little effort each day gave us the end result and saved about $100 on the repair cost.

The point of the story is that, if you work at it and keep finding new ways around things, you will get the task you want down. The more effort the better the outcome, does it come out perfect every time, nope, but what does. As long as you place the hard work and effort into something the more likely it will give you the outcome you want. Yes at times as you work on something it looks like it will never get done and you want to give in. Just don’t give in to early or get mad, that does nothing but waste your time and energy.

Many times we get lost in the whole project and how hard it is. When it gets hard, it means you just need more effort into it.  Nothing is impossible for you to do it and with the tools of the internet you can find out how to do anything now. Yes it will take time to do something hard, but once you do it the amount of the achievement is great! Remember that it may look hard right now, but just that little bit of effort makes it easier and in time it will work out and you will feel great!

Placing in that little effort in life is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Making it Through

YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!

In life, we have challenges we always have to face there is just no way around it. If you want to make more money, you work hard with school, then your job, etc. to get where you want to be. It’s the time from where you start and on your travels to get there that is the hard part. You can always look a head and say, when I get this and when I get that. Only to then be stuck in reality at where you are and get down heart about it. There is a trick to get through the growing pains and make it to the other side of your goal.

The goals you have in life, the major ones that is, are hard to grasp sometimes. They seem so far away, like we come so far only to go even further and it always seem just out of reach. Today, you need to stop looking at where the goal is, but where you are and be proud of how far you come. For example, my business, four years ago it was looking on the verge of death and we were pretty scared here. One by one new clients came in and every month we got better, then every year we became more stable, till finally this year we got too much work and needed to grow. We are still not where we want to be, but I will take where we are and proud of what we did to make it.

If I would have given up halfway, I would have failed and most people will give up halfway to the goal, because it is hard. What we need to remember is why and what we are fighting for. Going for your degree seems like a long task, but keep going it will give you the fruits of your labor in time. Yes, people are going to nay say and talk about zero jobs after your degree, but they are wrong. You just got to do the right things and look for the work, it will come.

Nothing in life is easy, but making it through and working through the pain is key in this world.  You can do it, just stay focus and most importantly stay positive. Tune out on the negative noise, because you know it will always be there. People are going to down play what you are doing and say you will never make it. If every band listen to that negative talk, we would have zero music, if every business owner heard that and listen, we wouldn’t have companies or jobs, if every person who went to college heard and listen, well zero graduates would come out. Today and everyday focus on where you are and improving to reach your goal, you can do it!!

Blocking out the negative vibes to reach your goal is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!