Busy is Good, Saying Your Busy is Horrible

NOT NOW I AM SOOOOO BUSY!!!!!……(watches the newest youtube craze)

You ever have those friends or people in your life that when ever you ask them how they are doing, they reply with, “Busy!” That’s it, no I am fine thanks for asking, or not really well, just I am busy. Yes this is one of my giant pet peeve because they show a few things, like they aren’t really listening to the question and they don’t care enough to give you an honest response. Being busy is what you are doing, not how you are doing and today, let us talk about it.

This subject has been discussed on here not to long ago and today I want to really stress the damage it can cause. To start things off it when you respond to a how are you questions, with something like busy, not now, etc. you come off like you don’t care. Though you may not see it, but people don’t like being told that someone else is busy when they are reaching out for a conversation. In fact to say Good is shorter then saying I am busy. This really showcase that you don’t care about the person to give them a nice response. Esp in today’s world with texting, facebook, cellphones, it’s easy to reply nicely with I am doing great, but can’t talk now, can we talk later? Instead of BUSY! Really, if you were so busy why did you pick up the phone, read the text, and then reply. Clearly you aren’t that busy.

This brings me to another point today and that is being honest. Facebook can showcase your lies very quickly and easily. You tell a friend you can’t hang out with them one day on the weekend because you are busy with work or family things and then you are tagged by another friend or yourself out with them in something completely different then what you said. Why lie and not say hey, I have plans with other people, isn’t that more understandable? The thing is, you just need to be honest with people, if you don’t want them around or don’t want to talk just tell em, yea it’s mean, but it’s easier then dragging out their friendship hopes, right?

In today’s world people love to sound busy, it makes us feel important. The problem is it really makes you sound like your poo doesn’t stink. Yes, you can say you are busy when people ask you about your job or how is the home life keeping you. But going around with that being your first answer to everything is well damaging.  In life you need to listen to the question before you answer it, don’t respond with just busy all the time. You say it enough, you will soon lose those people you say it too.  Which in the end if you didn’t care about in the first place that’s okay right? Maybe not, because maybe they shouldn’t have been let go.

Today, I ask that you stop responding with the term BUSY all the time. Respond nicely and be honest with the person. Don’t lie about what you are doing, cause Facebook will post you, because you or your drunk friend will post that you’re at Pete’s bar at 1:00 PM, even though you couldn’t go out tonight with the other group of friends because you had to stay home with your friend’s baby all night and day. Just be honest, respond to the right question and stop acting so busy, cause the moment you respond that on text, the moment we all know you just lied.

Being respectful is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Who Cares How Busy You Are!?

First off let me say I am sorry to all my fellow readers out there on my lack of post lately. It has been a very busy time for this writer here who was traveling and working on taking care of stuff for his business. I promise to make it up to all of you for my lack of writing and pound out about of great post for you in the ext couple of weeks. With that being said, lets talk about everyone who is extremely busy and loves to talk about it. You know we all have those friends, that when you ask how they are doing their first response is always, “I AM SOOO BUSY!” and we are like that’s nice, but “HOW ARE YOU!? Not how busy are you!” Today lets talk about this phrase and how much it makes you look like, well honestly, a jerk.

Here’s the deal, when I ask someone how they are, I personally don’t care how busy they are, if I wanted to know how busy you were, I would ask how busy are you. When someone tells us that they are busy the underlining message is, they don’t really want to talk to you and even if that is not the case, it still seems that way. Busy is a good thing and it’s great to be busy, but going around telling me that you busy and that is how you are doing, you are missing the question. To many times do I get the response that they are so busy with work and extra stuff, news flash we are busy in our normal lives, doesn’t mean you have to respond that you are busy.

To all my people out there who use this “I am busy” as a response to the question how you are doing, why do you respond that way? Well here’s the real reasons why you do. First off you want to feel important and feel the need to say I am busy is a way of showing that you are to busy for anything. Second, you don’t really want to talk to the person and saying you’re busy is a way of trying to give them a hint, where you should just say, “Hey I am good, but really busy at the moment, can we talk later?” is an easier response then just,”I am busy.” Finally my last point on this, is you sound like you give to poos about the person who ask you the question, because you didn’t answer it and that right there is the number one sign that this person is below you, not meaningful, and just a pain to you.

Now if you don’t want to come off that way, just find better ways to word it if you can’t talk. Everyone is busy and if someone reaches out to you, even though they are probably busy too, then you can give them the curiosity of being nice to them. Here’s the main deal, being busy is great and for the most part all of us, so no one gives any thought about that in a real conversation, unless they ask you “How busy you are?” don’t response with you telling them how busy you are. Lets be honest, that’s just rude, so think on that before you response with… “I AM BUSY!” No one cares if you are or not.

Answering the right way is key in this Savage World, that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Busy Does Not Equal Awesome

Just soo busy.. Please hold.

Lately, everyone is always so busy. With some many ways to communicate it almost seems impossible for someone not to send out a text, hop on Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, etc.  Just seems like everything you want to do has to be pushed back till tomorrow, than tomorrow becomes next week, then next month, then next year, etc. etc.  So what happens when work always seems to get in the way and you just can’t do what you want in life anymore? I am telling you when you say you are super busy to someone, it doesn’t make you as special as you think.

Here’s the picture I want you to have in your head. Picture yourself always running, going into work early, staying late, and then coming home to work again. Your friends, reach out to you but never can get a hold of you because your cell phone is usually used for work only. The house work, it can be done later or someone else can do it.  When you actually talk to your friends on your social media page, you just always say that your just so busy with work and your extra activities so you can’t talk or meet up. But it’s okay, you tell yourself you need to do this for work and to make it better for yourself there. Does that sound like you?

Now, on the flip side of what your friends and family are hearing from you. First off, when all you do is work and don’t help around your house. Your spouse takes on much extra pressure to clean, cook, take care of the kids, pets, etc. This causes a lot of stress on your spouse to do it alone, plush their own work, and lives.

On your friends view of this; when you say you are too busy to talk they hear that they aren’t important enough for you to take five minutes to talk or even grab some coffee. Maybe your friend is hurting and needs someone to just reach out and have a shoulder to cry on. Maybe they have great news they want to share with you. Maybe…they just want to hear from you and know about your world. When they can’t reach you, they lose faith in you and become to go, “Okay, it’s time to move on, cause I am done trying to be your friend.”

Finally your family needs to know what is going on. When you are too busy to stop by for a ball game, a party, etc. you send a message of how unimportant that family member is. This doesn’t go for brothers and sisters, but cousins, uncles, aunts, grandparents, parents, etc.  The two busy for your own family, can hurt more than you think. It’s okay not to go to every event, but when you miss them all it sends out a massive message.

The reason, I brought this subject up today is to hit a point. As you know from Monday’s blog a good friend of mine passed away last week. I really messed up as a friend at times, I wasn’t there for him all the time and didn’t do more to reach out. Always thought he would pull through and I would have all the time in the world, sadly I didn’t. My lost time with him can never be earned, because I was always to busy for him and that wasn’t fair. That’s not fair to my friends and family, so today this blogger is going to change it.

If you are one of those people who always is too busy. The ones who can’t put the work down and always has something else they need to do. Take a minute to breathe and reach out to friends, family, and loved ones. Place the work down for an hour a night, reach out through phone calls, e-mails, Facebook, text, etc. There is so many ways to get through to your friends now that there is no longer an excuse not to.

Don’t let the moment leave you, because you don’t know what will happen to tomorrow. Your friends and family are here for such a short time. The blessings they give us are truly amazing. Don’t let it slip away, because you were too busy for everyone and everything.

Being balanced is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!