Break the Negative Circle

Follow Me Out of the Dark

In life it is easy to surround ourselves with negative things, people, and places. The tale misery loves company is very very true, and people who are sad want to bring you down with them. On the other end of the specturm, positive loves company too! True it’s easier to give into the pain and fall down the pit of misery and join the people down there.  The reason being is because more people are negative and ready to drag you under then those who are positive trying to pull you up. The question is who do you lean towards the cliffs of despair or the mountain of joy?

The other day I saw someone posting sad thoughts on Facebook about when will life get better and seeing all the response was shocking to me. People actually told this person that, “It may seem like it gets better only to be granted with more and more poo flung at you, cause life is one big giant poo storm.” This right here made me want to tell  that person to stop listening to them and allowing that negative person in their life. Then to that person who sent that response, I wanted to send him some kind words to not be a debbie downer.  Sad part, is you can’t these people to stop being negative, to stop listening to negative feedback,, and to stop sharing negative thoughts.

Today, I will tell all of you about the joys of positive attitudes as I always do. The negative people and feelings will always be there and it is easy to give into the demons of sadness, but you got to stay strong. The will to live keeps us going, the will to be strong keeps us alive, the will to be positive is the answer to one heck of a great life. Yes bad things will happen, but with a positive outlook you can find the silver lining and see how to work through the issue better. As a negative person when something bad happens it is blown out of the water and they are so blinded by negative thoughts that they just sink deeper and deeper without seeing things clearly. The negative person can’t think through the problems cause all they see is the pain, where as a positive person can take the step back and remove what happen and go through the steps one by one to figure out what to do to get through it.

In the end of the day, you can choose to listen to the group of negative people or join the few who are climbing and not listening to the nay sayers. It will seem hard to get rid of the people who are always down, see no light, and want to bring you down with them, but once you are free you will see the world in a different light. My advice is drop the negative in your life, that means all the drama on Facebook you need to close, all the drama at work you need move on from, and all the drama with friends you need to end. Step into the light and out of the darkest to see the beautiful world.

Leaving the darkness is key in this savage world; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!!

 

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The Hard Climb Upward

Never Give Up

Six years ago, I was fresh out of college and ask to partner in a company a small distance from my college city. I was excited, inexperienced, scared, nervous, and eager to get going. Had a very cool first client that was in the heart of the city and was pretty dang fun to work with. On the cutting edge at times it seemed and I was doing some amazing work. Quickly and without notice this awesome clients investors, decide to pull the plug and start axing jobs quickly. Our company was the first to go without warning, went home one day and never went back.

After the end of my first client which was about four months in, the company had to start looking for new clients quickly. Now there was a lot of fear at this time and more downs then ups. I learned how to build a company from the ground up with the help of my partners. Slowly we rebuilt and within a year we were doing good, not awesome, but good. Then again the status of cool clients came in and they went pretty quickly, no matter how great of a job we did. We were force to rebuild and we did, but this time it has been two years since the fall of our first major client and we learned from mistakes. We built up a name for ourselves, starting all over for the third time and working on how to build a stronghold, piece by piece, brick by brick.

Here we are six years later and we are stable and building still, but the fear will always be there, but not around every corner like the past. We continue to grow, expand, and learn new ways to build that safety net.  We are no where need the top, but every day brings us closer to where we want to be. I am okay with that, because I learned that nothing comes easy and if it does, how long does it last? The longer and harder we work for it, the longer and more successful it will last.

This story today is not to give a big detail of my company, but more to show you it takes time to get to where you want to be. Overnight success sounds awesome and does happen, just not a lot. Your awesome client or fun amazing that is too good to be true job, could be gone in a blink, because of all these different factors. True you see bands on TV and hear them on the radio and think, man they are lucky, truth be told, they busted their butt to get there. You look at an amazing business like Wal-Mart for example, Sam Walton started with nothing and was a small store before he came big, it took time and years.

Point is you want a successful career or your own business, stick with what works and going down the right paths. Yes there are pitfalls that seem to make you fall back a few steps, when honestly a pitfall is another lesson learned. You know the tools you need to do to become higher in your company or in your business world, which is education, experience, loyalty, hard work, and heart. Even if you think all is lost and you can’t be successful, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, just buckle down and get to work. No one gets anywhere by sitting on their butt watching TV all day.

Last bit of knowledge today and that is networking and being a good person. On your climb to the top, don’t shove people off and don’t ignore people who can be great allies to you. The more you push people away, the more they resent you, the more resent leads to higher damage as you climb. Help others even if they don’t help you for years later. Remember it’s always networking and knowing the world, you never know where a helping hand can come from.

Understanding your hard climb is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

 

The World of Joy

Head on!!

To many times we are stuck in the right now and how things are. We listen way too much on what the world tells how we should act, dress, talk, etc. We listen to all our negative friends on the Facebook society and not see them in real life.  It’s time to start becoming deaf and blind to what some of the world tells you and listen to more positive aspects of your world.

Take this writer for example, he use to be a guy who was stuck in his own depression, worried about what everyone thought of him and always wanted to be the best. Thought it was cool to be depressed, because at the time movies and shows were all about the drama, guess that still goes on today (Thank you Twilight). It wasn’t till I learned that no one cares if your sad or upset for a long period of time. Sure there are times a loss of a loved one or friend, injury, etc. But usually if you are sad or acting negative, people don’t want to be around you, period.

If you stay in this mood of depression anti social and ignoring the hands that are out there, because you are just too cool and depressed for that, friendship will be lost. Instead you need to turn off what the world is telling you to be, find your inner joy. Are you going through a rough time? Find a way to make it better. In this process you better yourself and it’s not an overnight fix. Friends are there to help if you are willing to listen. On the flip side if you continue to be down and don’t want to pull yourself up, chances are you are going to drive people away.

Think about this, you push friends away who try to help and always been there, for other things like booze or parties, etc. Escaping the demons with outside sources that are a temporary fix don’t help. When you come back to Earth you will feel just as bad if not worse. The thing is you become the problem when you refuse the hands, when you refuse to pick yourself up. It’s when you slam the door on the negative attitudes and start focusing on making it better that’s when you start to solve the problem.

This writer understands the issues of depression been there a few times in my life. It happens and it’s nothing to be ashamed about, but talk and ask for advice when you need it. Don’t go around posting on Facebook how you can’t sleep or you hate your life or this person. Just focus on finding the issues and working your way out of it. Help comes in the forms of human face to face or phone to phone interaction. Nothing is solved by airing out your problems via social media.

Dealing with your problems face first is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Not For Granted

Enjoy the beauty

Many times in our lives we take the ones that are always around for granted. This goes from friends, family members, coworkers, employees, etc. We always feel that once we build that bound they will always be around. Maybe they have done something for you time and time again that they become very much apart of what you need. The thing is don’t take em for granted.

Sometimes we have those friends that always wants to do something or talk, but we kind of brush them off. We know if there isn’t anything to do or something is needed, they will be there.  You know this person, the one who is super nice, but not really important because you always have something better to do or be at. Let me ask you, what would happen if this person would stop calling, texting, and checking in on you? Would you still reach out to them? Five years from now will you miss that comfort level and trust?

Chances are yes, if you take for granted someone who tries to reach out and be a friend, but never giving them a true reason to stick around, then you will lose them. People get sick of being the on call friend or if the poo hits the fan type deal. This person is also the one who you usually take advantage of , because for a time they allow it.

Everyone does this and some of us also are the ones who have it done to us if not all of us. It’s not a good thing or feeling to be taken for granted off. This is something that this written has been working real hard at lately, reaching out to old friends, working on relationships, to let everyone that I care and want to make them know how much they mean.

People come and go in our lives so quickly to maintain a friendship is very hard work, esp if it’s over 100 miles away. It may not seem fruitful, but let me tell if you can maintain it, then you will enjoy the fruits of the labor. Though if you don’t you will begin to lose that friend into the deep sea, most likely never heard from again.

Today the lesson, I want you to take is don’t take your friends for granted. They may seem like a bore, but if you abuse their friendship and give it false hope, because you like the attention, now is the time to cut the cord or be more open with them. The time for taking people for granted should be over, because you never know when they will be gone for good.

Don’t take anything for granted in this Savage World; that you are no longer living, but beginning to own!

Let It Go

Let it go today

In life people make us upset, angry, sad, mad, happy, etc. Most of the time nothing is bad enough where you can’t let it go and forgive and forget. Sometimes though we have those moments were it is just to big of an issue to let it go.

Today, I want you to reflect on some of the issues in your past with friends and family members. Want you to think about all the wrong they have done, got it? Okay, now think of all the good times that you had with them and everything good they did for you. Now, I ask does the good outweigh the bad? If so, it’s time to reach back out to them and make everything okay.

Have you wronged someone in the past and want to make it right? Do you miss that friend or family member? Maybe you should reach back out to at least say sorry, don’t expect much besides a door slammed in your face, but sorry goes a long way. I am not talking about just saying I am sorry, but really meaning it, let them know that you messed up and you want to make it right. Even if there is no way to cross that bridge again, at least you made it right.

Basically the thing is there are people in this world that are bonded to us and you don’t want to look back twenty years from now with them gone.  You don’t want them to not be apart of the major events in life, because you were both to stubborn to make up and end the feud. Why waste your time being mad at someone because they did something wrong. We all do that at times.

Again there are things that aren’t forgivable, but that is not a lot. In recap today, I want you to think of a person you spent a lot of your time with when you were younger, could be a close friend or a family member. This person wronged you in some way and you will never forgive them. Stop and think about if it is worth fighting anymore and make it right if it isn’t.

Letting issues go is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Beyond the Fan Experience

The Band and friends

A little over a week ago, my friends and I had an amazing chance to hang out with one of our favorite bands One-Eyed Doll for basically the whole day. They were in town for a show that night and was open for a small lunch here in town. Now we have met the band before, but it has been months. When we walked through the doors of this little cafe to see Kimberly and Junior of One-Eyed Doll, there they were ready to pounce on us with big hugs and giant smiles. Basically picked up where we left off.

This little lunch turned into some nice conversations that answer some questions, made everyone laugh, and leaving some very big memories for all of us. So lunch was over and we took some pictures, but the band wasn’t ready for us to be done for the day just yet. They asked us to come join them later a few hours before show time to hang out some more, which of course we jumped on the idea and spent a lot of time with them when we met back up.

Then they took the stage and my lord it was even better then before. We knew Kimberly (the lead singer) was a little under the weather before the mic was turned on, but once she stepped on the stage, the rest of the world and us would know she was a little ill. She stepped up the game and stole the show as she always does. The little pistol gave a performance I dream about seeing from every band, including the end, she performed a very powerful version of their song New Orleans, that can’t be relayed through text or voice, but only experience. The song left the crowd breathless.

Then it happen, the show was over, she jumped off stage and the whole venue followed her every moves back to the merch booth, where she gave free hugs, signed posters, shirts, cds, and talked to every single fan that wanted to meet her (basically everyone).  As a business man and fan watching this, I was stunned by how humble and friendly they were, and this is coming to the point of the blog today. Also was proud and excited for them to get so much support.

This unknown band to the area came in here and stole everyone’s heart, why? Because the lead singer is beautiful? Or because the drummer is something the ladies (which the venue had a lot of) found attractive? No, it was the power of giving the fans what they want and respecting your fans. They turned fans who thought they were a little strange on stage, into hardcore fans within forty minutes.

Point is, if you want to sell someone or get to know someone or build a fan base for your band/company, you need to do what they do in a sense. Get down to that person’s level, understand who they are without knowing them, and respect them. Also be real and be yourself, don’t try to sell, but try to get to know them. Selling the stuff is a bonus, because people buy from people they know and trust.

You want to make that giant sale or have a great friendship/relationship last for a long time. Just do a few things, respect them, understand them, listen to them, and never take them for granted. I see a lot of bands, people, companies, etc. lose sight of this when they get to important. They think friends, family, customers, etc. will always be there till the day they aren’t there, then what do you do? Have to start over and rebuild, something that is hard to do.

So today, we talked about One-Eyed Doll and how awesome they are. We also discussed how to branch out to work on relationships. Let us know today, what you think about all that was said today and how you keep relationships.

Never taking people for granted is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Don’t Squash My Positive Day

Don't Rain on my Parade

Positive people have one issue they always have to worry about and that is the negative people trying to squash the vibe.  Are you one of those people who see a positive post and just get upset when you see it? Do you want to just crush that person a little bit, because darn it they are just too happy? Well, I think it’s time we have a talk.

Here’s the thing to the negative people of the world, it’s time to just smile. This life is too short to continue to be down and talk about how horrible this and that is. Bad things happen, we get it, but you don’t need to continue to share to a world who doesn’t want to listen. Now, I am not saying hold it all inside, talk out issues with close friends and loved ones as they are near (Not on Facebook or Twitter).

If you see someone happy, don’t get mad at them or blast them because they found something to be happy about. So you don’t like Mondays and probably hates that this blogger post that he loves Mondays, don’t rain on his parade because you hate the day or thing he is talking about it. Misery loves company is the old saying, but being happy loves company too, so why not just skip the drama and come over to the good side of life.

Too many times, I see someone happy and in return a negative person slamming them to the ground because that negative person isn’t in “the mood” to deal with happy-go-lucky. Drama in life is just drama, it can be avoided if you just handed things like a grown up. Crying about your issues doesn’t fix them, doing something about your issues does.

The thing is people we all live together in this world, why do we feel the need to steal from others who make a little more? Why do we feel the need to cut others down because they are “different” from you? Why? Why? Why? We are just really hurting ourselves the way we hurt others. By stealing you hurt your community, by killing you hurt the population, by bullying people, you make the world bitter. Why would you want to do that?

As kids bullying isn’t good, but we can get away with it because we are young and stupid, as long as it doesn’t go to far. Though as you grow older it is less okay to do things like that, because you do know better. No one likes a bully and if they do, it’s cause of a sad fear. Don’t talk down to others anymore, it’s time be a helpful tool to society and not fall into the bully department.

Just remember the old saying, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. It goes a long way and trust me you will be happy in the end with everyone else.

Being a positive force is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

 

Embrace What You Have

Love it!

Every morning I wake up in my own bed and think about what I have, which is  two dogs, a beautiful wife, and an amazing family that is always there.  I use to always say, I don’t have this or that and I want this and that. In this life with flashing commercials, friend’s pictures on Facebook, etc, we forget sometimes what we have. That’s why every morning before I get up, I look around my room to see what I have and remember what is waiting for me.

Lately there is too much talk about not having this, the money, the car, whatever it may be. Everything that you can buy is just in the end worthless if you look at it, if you can afford it and then get it now, by all means go out have a blast if you are response. Don’t buy things because you think it looked great on Beyonce so it has to look great on you.. (note her dress probably cost $500) Just cause your friend got a brand new sports car because they could afford doesn’t mean you and your family of five have a need or use for it.

Truth is no matter who you are, you will always want something either from the past, the store, love, friends, etc. It’s loving what you have at the moment that makes life so great! Sure you can have million dollars, a supermodel wife or baseball star husband. But the trick is if you want stuff like that you need to work very hard for it. Also, once you get it, you may not want it.

Many times we focus on what we don’t have and not what we do have. Today, I want you to stop saying and THINKING about what you don’t have. Start noticing what you have. Hate your job? Be thankful you have one, many other would kill for that right now! Hate the government, make a positive stand by becoming involved in politics. Want a million dollars? Find ways to work hard and set a realistic timeline on when you can reach that million mark. But for right now, take a deep look at your life and notice what you have. You will be surprised how lucky you truly are.

Embracing your life is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

It Flows Down Hill and Time to End It

All the way down!

Every knows that poo flows down hill and somehow the person at the bottom gets hit the hardest with it. In life when people at the top get bad news they somehow manage to take it out on the person below them who in turn take it out on the person below them, etc. till basically we have a giant pile of poo on the last person. Something needs to change if we are the ones doing this or the ones receiving this at the bottom.

As some of you may know, I am a very direct person who doesn’t like poo being thrown at me. I fight for the little guy and try to make sure even when bad news is received on my end not to have it affect my company, friends, and family.

The thing I learned in my time when I actually work for someone else, was that when it rains it pours and personally, didn’t like when it happened. Never wanted to be the person who would lash at others for nothing they did wrong. To many time managers/bosses hold this power of their employees, parents over their kids, and siblings over their siblings. Is it fair of them who have the power to lash out at their underlings, because they got yelled for something they did? No, it’s not fair and we need to fix it.

As a person in power people look up to you and respond to what you do. If you are the type of person who lashes out, rips apart the ones under you, and destroy their positive energy, the thing is you are doing it wrong. That’s right just cause you’re in power does not give you the power to treat others who work hard with you poorly.

For example a manager comes into work yesterday, gets yelled at by her boss because she isn’t doing something right, her kids are annoying her, and she may get a divorce. This manager in turns goes after her workers, yelling at them, closed-door meetings telling them how bad they are messing up, and providing zero positive feedback. Now, how does this make a company look? Pretty darn bad if you ask me.

If you are a manager or person like the manager we read about, then you need to stop. The harm you are doing to your life and/or company is huge. Once you start demoralizing your employees, friends, and family, it will take weeks to years to regain everything you lost in a fit of rage. Why do you ask? Well look at it this way, your employees can’t perform well if they are working in fear or being nagged at every day. You want the best results, give them a good balance of trust and positive vibes.

Once you start that rage you start to break down people you do it to. The pile of poo with rise and rise quickly and do you know how hard it is to clean off a pile poo? Pretty hard and it’s pretty nasty. Those employees that work under you are your lifeline in your job, yea you can throw them under the bus, fire them, etc. but if they are honestly doing a great job, working hard, and doing what is need to be done, you better start looking out for them. Once you throw out that rage and flinging the poo, well that once awesome employee will turn scared, bitter, and hateful. You don’t want that, especially with your best employees, cause once they live and go to your rivals what are you going to do then?

My advice is, if you have a bad day or you get poo flung at you. Don’t respond by flinging more poo, find the problem, talk it out and figure out how to fix it in a productive way. Don’t start throwing bodies under the bus or making everyone around you feel the wraith of your pain. End the trail with you and be the bigger person, that’s when you start to become a better person in the end.

Stopping the pile with you is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

 

 

Too Much Information

Zip it

In the world of social media and the joy of texting, our society has become fans of TMI (TOO MUCH INFORMATION). Everyone is texting, tweeting, Facebooking, etc. about every little detail about their life. You all read the stories about how your friend’s two-year old son made a funny face, seen the picture, threw up, and five minutes later you saw another one. Also we all get the updates about everyone’s life, like if Mike broke his arm he texts everyone on the way to the ER and then tweets about how hot the nurse is. Maybe it’s just me, but as a society aren’t we over sharing a little too much?

Here’s the thing, I am a very private person who doesn’t want to over share all his information to cyberspace and his friends. Not everyone needs to know where I am, what cute thing my dog did this morning I woke up, and where I am going all day.

The world loves mystery and we should allow ourselves to fall back into that. I am seriously, to the ones who post, do you read all the post that people post about themselves everyday? Chances are, probably not, so what allows you to air our all your dirty laundry to the world when you don’t read others?

So everyone instead of posting all those things in your life about XYZ, how about just taking a break from it. Post every once in a while, make it fun, upbeat, and things people want to read about. There is enough drama and sadness in the world, that we don’t need to read about yours.

Facebook and all those social media outlets are great, but use them in moderation. Don’t continue to post stories of the hamburg you just ate from Pete’s Burger Hut (unless they are paying you) or don’t post about how horrible your boyfriend/girlfriend is over the net. None of this ever ends well and honestly, we are so overloaded with information right now, that people get sick of reading it.

Life is meant to be lived, not meant to be lived on a computer screen. Go out there experience it with the people you are with. You don’t need to bring the rest of the world there with you. Everything is much better in person anyway. Enjoy the life and share stories in person, bring the human element to everything, try to cut back on the tweeting and facebooking. When you are out in public with friends and family, PUT DOWN THE PHONE… LOOK UP… DON’T TWEEK or POST ON FACEBOOK…Just enjoy the time with the people you are with.

Not over sharing is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!