The Curtain is Down, the Drama is Over

The curtain is closed!

The other day I was enjoying a live show from this band I really enjoy. The crowd was small, but it was supposed to be and it was an all ages show. It wasn’t the band that made the biggest impact there, it was the drama that was aired out publicly in the parking lot afterwards. A son and mother were having a yelling match, the son was scolding his mother in broad daylight, in front of about twenty people, telling her that it’s all her fault.  The men in the crowd drew close to make sure the son didn’t do anything stupid as the bartender ran out to end the drama. Moments later the mother left with her head down and the son walked cocky towards a group of people who shook their head. End of the story, the scene was straight from a movie, but not with a good ending. There were no hugs, no resolution, just a son and mother with issues for the whole world to see, with the son looking like a jerk.

Maybe, I was lucky and didn’t have mommy issues or daddy issues. Maybe I took all the things that could have held me down and used them as fuel to become better and not worried about the past. People, parents, and friends aren’t perfect, they make mistakes and probably don’t realize it at the time.  The end of the day you can’t sit in a corner and blame everyone else for your problem, you are there and it may stink, but it’s your job to get out of the problem. If they caused it, find ways to get out of it and move on. You can’t live your whole life in hate and drama, what does it do for you? Nothing. Yes, I may not of had parent issued, but was bullied and teachers who told me I would never be anything, etc. I used every ounce of energy to become the best person I can be without being a bitter man..

What does leaving in the past do? Keeps you stuck behind the rest of the world. Yes the past is great to remember to know where you come from, great memories, things that failed, things that you learned, etc. Though once the day ends, the curtain is over on that day and it’s time to move on. People are going to hurt you, people may say things in jealous, rage, hate, etc. It’s your job to get out of that issue and yes, I am aware some issues are harder than most to get out, those cases are not the issue today. Trick is you need to remember who you are, build on that for the present and future. Show the world the positive amazing force you have become! Don’t dwell on your pain and sorrow, that just gets you stuck in a dark corner.

Remember that you are an awesome person, no matter what someone else said or did to you. Having issues with you parents, talk to them, don’t yell and don’t do it publicly. Issues with friends or family, tell them, don’t hold it in, but don’t yell and if they start getting mad, end the convo and tell we can talk when they are ready to. Don’t let others bring you down and don’t let others run your life. Drama is overrated, but thanks to Facebook, MTV reality shows, etc. we think drama is great now! Because it’s cool to live life-like a gangsta, being a teen mom, having issues with people, etc. It’s just time people drop the curtain and end the everyday drama and move on.

Life is too short for drama, make it a positive day every day from here on out and if someone tries to bring you down. Tell em no and move on, no one should ever steal your sunshine.

Striving for a drama free life is key  in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Making Changes

Here it comes!!!

Ever wake up in the morning and go, “Hmph, I need to make some changes in my life right now.” Chances are once or twice you woke up like that, but mostly it has been changes you been wanting to make in your head for a long time. Most of the time when you want to make a major change, you think about it and usually say, “I will do that later in life.” Today, let us talk about how to make those changes real and use some examples.

Recently, I have been wanting to make changes to how this life goes. Many things that I still need to do, but never just do them. For example, I want to get out of the country and explore the world. I want to be more productive throughout my business and personal life.  Problem is, something is always stopping me, on the travel which is the time and on the productive level, it’s just me not knowing how to balance relaxing and being productive. Answer is always, next year we will travel to Ireland, next week I will get up earlier and start working out again.

Well, today folks I am asking for your help.  This coming Monday there is going to be some changes in my life. Starting with getting up again at 5:00-5:30 every weekday morning, doing a workout, and becoming more productive. You’re help is to ask me once a day, how is my schedule going? What did you do this morning? Reach out and make sure I am doing it (if I didn’t make a small note at the bottom of the page).

Now on the flip side, I want you to do the same. Find something you want to change about yourself. Want to lose some weight, let’s do it together! Talk to me and we will hold each other accountable. Trick is, when you want to make a change you need help most of the times. A teammate in a way. Think about this, you want to get up at 5:30 AM every morning, do a thirty to sixty minute workout and then get your booty into work.  Well now is your chance, we can make things happen along the way. This blogger right here will help, please feel free to contact me to get a plan rolling for both of us. (Review the information at the bottom of this insert to get a hold of me)

Making changes in life are very important, but very hard. Many people fear change, whether it’s a new job or moving to a new city. Life is hard there is no way around it, but with friends and family by your side that support you, then it can be done. Let us know what you want to change and how this community here can help out.

Making changes in life are key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Contact info: James@savages.cc

Busy Does Not Equal Awesome

Just soo busy.. Please hold.

Lately, everyone is always so busy. With some many ways to communicate it almost seems impossible for someone not to send out a text, hop on Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, etc.  Just seems like everything you want to do has to be pushed back till tomorrow, than tomorrow becomes next week, then next month, then next year, etc. etc.  So what happens when work always seems to get in the way and you just can’t do what you want in life anymore? I am telling you when you say you are super busy to someone, it doesn’t make you as special as you think.

Here’s the picture I want you to have in your head. Picture yourself always running, going into work early, staying late, and then coming home to work again. Your friends, reach out to you but never can get a hold of you because your cell phone is usually used for work only. The house work, it can be done later or someone else can do it.  When you actually talk to your friends on your social media page, you just always say that your just so busy with work and your extra activities so you can’t talk or meet up. But it’s okay, you tell yourself you need to do this for work and to make it better for yourself there. Does that sound like you?

Now, on the flip side of what your friends and family are hearing from you. First off, when all you do is work and don’t help around your house. Your spouse takes on much extra pressure to clean, cook, take care of the kids, pets, etc. This causes a lot of stress on your spouse to do it alone, plush their own work, and lives.

On your friends view of this; when you say you are too busy to talk they hear that they aren’t important enough for you to take five minutes to talk or even grab some coffee. Maybe your friend is hurting and needs someone to just reach out and have a shoulder to cry on. Maybe they have great news they want to share with you. Maybe…they just want to hear from you and know about your world. When they can’t reach you, they lose faith in you and become to go, “Okay, it’s time to move on, cause I am done trying to be your friend.”

Finally your family needs to know what is going on. When you are too busy to stop by for a ball game, a party, etc. you send a message of how unimportant that family member is. This doesn’t go for brothers and sisters, but cousins, uncles, aunts, grandparents, parents, etc.  The two busy for your own family, can hurt more than you think. It’s okay not to go to every event, but when you miss them all it sends out a massive message.

The reason, I brought this subject up today is to hit a point. As you know from Monday’s blog a good friend of mine passed away last week. I really messed up as a friend at times, I wasn’t there for him all the time and didn’t do more to reach out. Always thought he would pull through and I would have all the time in the world, sadly I didn’t. My lost time with him can never be earned, because I was always to busy for him and that wasn’t fair. That’s not fair to my friends and family, so today this blogger is going to change it.

If you are one of those people who always is too busy. The ones who can’t put the work down and always has something else they need to do. Take a minute to breathe and reach out to friends, family, and loved ones. Place the work down for an hour a night, reach out through phone calls, e-mails, Facebook, text, etc. There is so many ways to get through to your friends now that there is no longer an excuse not to.

Don’t let the moment leave you, because you don’t know what will happen to tomorrow. Your friends and family are here for such a short time. The blessings they give us are truly amazing. Don’t let it slip away, because you were too busy for everyone and everything.

Being balanced is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

The Pot of Gold

GOLD!!!

Rain, Rain, go away come again another day, everybody’s waiting for the sun! Well at least that’s how it feels here in Lexington, KY. Seems like the ark should be formed and we should float away onto a new world. The great thing about rain is the rainbow waiting at the end of the storm. Today, I was dropping my car off at the service place. Getting out of my car, there was this beautiful brilliant color rainbow in front of me. Made all the rain in the past few days worth it.

Just like in life, your days can be horrible with no sun in sight. Then it happens, that one moment, the sun appears out of the clouds for you to see that tiny or large rainbow. Means good things are coming to you, no matter what you think and how bad it looks. There is always a rainbow waiting to come out for you and lead you to the pot gold that seems lost.

Why waste your time upset about the rain and focusing on the rain drops. Who cares if you don’t have the cash? Who cares if you aren’t where you want to be in life yet? Is it really that bad, that you don’t have a million dollars or super successful? No it doesn’t matter, but what does matter is what you are doing about it. You can go into the corner and ball up to cry in your knees or you can stand up tall, look up towards the sky, wipe the tears/rain away from your face, and take on your storm.

No matter who you are, there will be doubt, hate, fear, etc. It’s how we handle it that defines us. The rainbow is there and you may have to fight through the rain, snow, sleet, hail, and ice. Don’t give in, fight through it because that rainbow will lead you to the pot of gold you have been looking for. Just hold tight and muscle through it.

Taking your time to find your gold is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!