Break the Negative Circle

Follow Me Out of the Dark

In life it is easy to surround ourselves with negative things, people, and places. The tale misery loves company is very very true, and people who are sad want to bring you down with them. On the other end of the specturm, positive loves company too! True it’s easier to give into the pain and fall down the pit of misery and join the people down there.  The reason being is because more people are negative and ready to drag you under then those who are positive trying to pull you up. The question is who do you lean towards the cliffs of despair or the mountain of joy?

The other day I saw someone posting sad thoughts on Facebook about when will life get better and seeing all the response was shocking to me. People actually told this person that, “It may seem like it gets better only to be granted with more and more poo flung at you, cause life is one big giant poo storm.” This right here made me want to tell  that person to stop listening to them and allowing that negative person in their life. Then to that person who sent that response, I wanted to send him some kind words to not be a debbie downer.  Sad part, is you can’t these people to stop being negative, to stop listening to negative feedback,, and to stop sharing negative thoughts.

Today, I will tell all of you about the joys of positive attitudes as I always do. The negative people and feelings will always be there and it is easy to give into the demons of sadness, but you got to stay strong. The will to live keeps us going, the will to be strong keeps us alive, the will to be positive is the answer to one heck of a great life. Yes bad things will happen, but with a positive outlook you can find the silver lining and see how to work through the issue better. As a negative person when something bad happens it is blown out of the water and they are so blinded by negative thoughts that they just sink deeper and deeper without seeing things clearly. The negative person can’t think through the problems cause all they see is the pain, where as a positive person can take the step back and remove what happen and go through the steps one by one to figure out what to do to get through it.

In the end of the day, you can choose to listen to the group of negative people or join the few who are climbing and not listening to the nay sayers. It will seem hard to get rid of the people who are always down, see no light, and want to bring you down with them, but once you are free you will see the world in a different light. My advice is drop the negative in your life, that means all the drama on Facebook you need to close, all the drama at work you need move on from, and all the drama with friends you need to end. Step into the light and out of the darkest to see the beautiful world.

Leaving the darkness is key in this savage world; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!!

 

When Life Gives You Lemons

When The Lemons Come, They Come in Bunches!

No matter what happens in your life, some bad things will happen at times and you can do two things; sit there in the pain or stand up, face the issue and move on with your life. The moving on can be really hard for some people, they get stuck in the shame, guilt, pain, etc. for what ever happen. It’s hard to get up when something major happens, but believe me when I say this, the sun is shining bright somewhere for you to walk towards. There is always hope, no matter where you go.

Today, I want to discuss with you the issues of the lemons and how they can come down on you. Many things can happen, you break up with your wife/husband, girlfriend/boyfriend, you lost a love one, etc. These things can be crippling and most people understand that, allowing you that time to breath and recollect yourself, that is not the problem. The problem we face is getting back up, to many times do I see people fall down and stay down.  Hardest thing to do is to get up and staying down makes you the problem. People depend on you to stand up and be strong for them to. It’s okay to be sad, mad, etc. but neglecting your life because of your pain is not right to the ones who are still with you or yourself.

At the end of the day, we have all been through our fair share of pain and it stinks. Our lives are meant for us to run them and be who we are, the pain needs to be allowed to heal, but also needs us to stand up. If you are in pain right now, understand what ever is going on it could be worse and people are needing you right now to stand up. If you live in a world of lemons you will never get the sour taste out of your mouth, try some of this orange right here and see the sweet taste of life.

Standing up in the midst of pain is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

 

Not For Granted

Enjoy the beauty

Many times in our lives we take the ones that are always around for granted. This goes from friends, family members, coworkers, employees, etc. We always feel that once we build that bound they will always be around. Maybe they have done something for you time and time again that they become very much apart of what you need. The thing is don’t take em for granted.

Sometimes we have those friends that always wants to do something or talk, but we kind of brush them off. We know if there isn’t anything to do or something is needed, they will be there.  You know this person, the one who is super nice, but not really important because you always have something better to do or be at. Let me ask you, what would happen if this person would stop calling, texting, and checking in on you? Would you still reach out to them? Five years from now will you miss that comfort level and trust?

Chances are yes, if you take for granted someone who tries to reach out and be a friend, but never giving them a true reason to stick around, then you will lose them. People get sick of being the on call friend or if the poo hits the fan type deal. This person is also the one who you usually take advantage of , because for a time they allow it.

Everyone does this and some of us also are the ones who have it done to us if not all of us. It’s not a good thing or feeling to be taken for granted off. This is something that this written has been working real hard at lately, reaching out to old friends, working on relationships, to let everyone that I care and want to make them know how much they mean.

People come and go in our lives so quickly to maintain a friendship is very hard work, esp if it’s over 100 miles away. It may not seem fruitful, but let me tell if you can maintain it, then you will enjoy the fruits of the labor. Though if you don’t you will begin to lose that friend into the deep sea, most likely never heard from again.

Today the lesson, I want you to take is don’t take your friends for granted. They may seem like a bore, but if you abuse their friendship and give it false hope, because you like the attention, now is the time to cut the cord or be more open with them. The time for taking people for granted should be over, because you never know when they will be gone for good.

Don’t take anything for granted in this Savage World; that you are no longer living, but beginning to own!

Let It Go

Let it go today

In life people make us upset, angry, sad, mad, happy, etc. Most of the time nothing is bad enough where you can’t let it go and forgive and forget. Sometimes though we have those moments were it is just to big of an issue to let it go.

Today, I want you to reflect on some of the issues in your past with friends and family members. Want you to think about all the wrong they have done, got it? Okay, now think of all the good times that you had with them and everything good they did for you. Now, I ask does the good outweigh the bad? If so, it’s time to reach back out to them and make everything okay.

Have you wronged someone in the past and want to make it right? Do you miss that friend or family member? Maybe you should reach back out to at least say sorry, don’t expect much besides a door slammed in your face, but sorry goes a long way. I am not talking about just saying I am sorry, but really meaning it, let them know that you messed up and you want to make it right. Even if there is no way to cross that bridge again, at least you made it right.

Basically the thing is there are people in this world that are bonded to us and you don’t want to look back twenty years from now with them gone.  You don’t want them to not be apart of the major events in life, because you were both to stubborn to make up and end the feud. Why waste your time being mad at someone because they did something wrong. We all do that at times.

Again there are things that aren’t forgivable, but that is not a lot. In recap today, I want you to think of a person you spent a lot of your time with when you were younger, could be a close friend or a family member. This person wronged you in some way and you will never forgive them. Stop and think about if it is worth fighting anymore and make it right if it isn’t.

Letting issues go is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

And they call it.. puuuppppy lloooovvvvve

Call it a hallmark holiday, call it just some lame excuse to get someone you love a gift, or call it the day you hate because your single. Honestly though, you shouldn’t hate this day. So what, that it seems like a corporate holiday and have everything commercial like. Yes the roses are over priced, yes the jewellery cost way too much, etc, etc. Honestly though is it worth it, to take one day a year to tell your special someone they mean the world to you?

The thing is, we shouldn’t need one day a year to tell someone how you feel. Yes, even you single people out there. If you like someone place your heart on the line and tell them, what’s the worse thing they can say? No? Oh okay, well then you move onto the next. Don’t worry it won’t ruin your friendship. Just a little weird at first.

Once a year we have this day that is meant to showcase our feelings for people we care for. It’s not a bad thing to spend a little, just to let the ones know you care. Heck, you don’t even need to spend a lot. The best gifts are from the heart and should come from there. Don’t feel like you have to buy them the biggest diamond in the world. Get them something you know they would love and make it from the heart.

For example one of my valentine’s day with my wife (who I was just dating at the time), bought me a six piece collection of the 1967 Boston Red Sox World Series glasses. Needless to say, I was shocked, happy, and overjoyed, one of the best gifts anyone could have ever given me. So see it’s not about how much you spend, but what you get them.

Now men and women, if your other is mad because you took the time and effort to get them the best gift ever and it wasn’t the high price item they wanted. Then you need to have a real heart to heart with them. Sometimes, people just aren’t good gift givers and if you are that way these days can be hard. Don’t let your spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc. get upset because you didn’t buy them the $10,000 ring.  Just place yourself in their shoes to know what they want.

Valentine’s day should be celebrated and shouldn’t be ignored. Even if all you do is go out to dinner and have a nice evening. Express your love today, don’t hold back and be sweet to them. Go over the top or stay low-key, as long as they know you love em.

Celebrating Valentine’s day is amazing in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Embrace What You Have

Love it!

Every morning I wake up in my own bed and think about what I have, which is  two dogs, a beautiful wife, and an amazing family that is always there.  I use to always say, I don’t have this or that and I want this and that. In this life with flashing commercials, friend’s pictures on Facebook, etc, we forget sometimes what we have. That’s why every morning before I get up, I look around my room to see what I have and remember what is waiting for me.

Lately there is too much talk about not having this, the money, the car, whatever it may be. Everything that you can buy is just in the end worthless if you look at it, if you can afford it and then get it now, by all means go out have a blast if you are response. Don’t buy things because you think it looked great on Beyonce so it has to look great on you.. (note her dress probably cost $500) Just cause your friend got a brand new sports car because they could afford doesn’t mean you and your family of five have a need or use for it.

Truth is no matter who you are, you will always want something either from the past, the store, love, friends, etc. It’s loving what you have at the moment that makes life so great! Sure you can have million dollars, a supermodel wife or baseball star husband. But the trick is if you want stuff like that you need to work very hard for it. Also, once you get it, you may not want it.

Many times we focus on what we don’t have and not what we do have. Today, I want you to stop saying and THINKING about what you don’t have. Start noticing what you have. Hate your job? Be thankful you have one, many other would kill for that right now! Hate the government, make a positive stand by becoming involved in politics. Want a million dollars? Find ways to work hard and set a realistic timeline on when you can reach that million mark. But for right now, take a deep look at your life and notice what you have. You will be surprised how lucky you truly are.

Embracing your life is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Sunny Monday

Look what you done to poor Monday.. 😦

Good morning to all my favorite readers out there in cyberspace. I don’t know what it is like in your place in the world, but today here in my world it is sunny. This is a pretty big week for some people, some would even say it’s a super week. That’s right, the Superbowl is right around the corner and it’s time to kick off the Superbowl week with a bang!

Monday’s who loves em? I DO!!!! You should too! No, stop crying on Facebook about how Monday’s are so bad and how you hate getting up for it. Why do you hate Monday? Because you’re weekend ended and you had to leave the house for work? Okay, that doesn’t sound bad. In fact it sounds good, because you got to get up today, get dress, and out the door to start a new work week. For some that is a major dream and desire right now.

Even if you are looking at rain or snow right now here on Monday, ignore it and find the sun. The trick with Monday’s is as I stated in past blogs, the trick is to embrace it and have this mark how your week will be. If you start it off with a bang each and every week, you know what? The rest of your week should be pretty darn good.

Now, I know this maybe a lot of energy for you early on a Monday, but you may need it. No don’t send over  a message about how much you hate Mondays, because none of them will ever make sense to me. The thing is everyone complains about Monday and really it’s just like a Tuesday or a Thursday. Is it Friday or Saturday, no, but it is a day that helps us start the week off right.

Monday also gives us meaning to get up and do our job. This allows us to be productive citizens in our respected countries. We get up, get ready, go to school or work, and do what we need to do to make the world better. It’s the sunrise of the week and it should be seen as beautiful, because it is your day to shine!

Having a sunny Monday every Monday is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

The End of the Year

Almost Midnight!!!

Near this time last year, my wife and I were sitting around talking. We decided that 2011 was going to be the start of some amazing things. W planned and spoke about all the good things that can happen. As 2011 started, things started to look up and up. The deeper 2011 went, the more great things happened. All because we said, this going to be a great year. Sure we had some major hiccups this year with health, cars, and the house, but all in all we stayed strong, positive and supportive of each other. Always saying, this is our year to start it all right.

This morning, my business partner and I were doing our weekly meeting for the company. We were looking over this past quarters numbers and next quarter numbers. Then we said it, 2012 will be the start of what this company really needs, sure 2011 was amazing for us, but we just need one more month to kick it into a high gear. 2012, is the year we go from a company starting to make noise, to a company that is the good noise!

Reason for this story today is, you should do the same thought process. Really look at what you can do better next year. What do you want to change to make 2012 an even better year? Maybe you want more money, think about how you can do that and do it. Maybe you want a better love life, well look into how you can make yourself better to what you are looking for. Just always say 2012 will be better and it will be the best until 2013.

Focus on the positive vibes, stay away from the negative vibes. Do something that will make your life worth wild. Sure there will be rough and scary times in 2012, but don’t let that be your main focus. Smile and leave for this coming year, enjoy every moment good and bad. Make the best of everything you have and you will be surprised with the results.

Thinking positive in 2012 is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

The Pot of Gold

GOLD!!!

Rain, Rain, go away come again another day, everybody’s waiting for the sun! Well at least that’s how it feels here in Lexington, KY. Seems like the ark should be formed and we should float away onto a new world. The great thing about rain is the rainbow waiting at the end of the storm. Today, I was dropping my car off at the service place. Getting out of my car, there was this beautiful brilliant color rainbow in front of me. Made all the rain in the past few days worth it.

Just like in life, your days can be horrible with no sun in sight. Then it happens, that one moment, the sun appears out of the clouds for you to see that tiny or large rainbow. Means good things are coming to you, no matter what you think and how bad it looks. There is always a rainbow waiting to come out for you and lead you to the pot gold that seems lost.

Why waste your time upset about the rain and focusing on the rain drops. Who cares if you don’t have the cash? Who cares if you aren’t where you want to be in life yet? Is it really that bad, that you don’t have a million dollars or super successful? No it doesn’t matter, but what does matter is what you are doing about it. You can go into the corner and ball up to cry in your knees or you can stand up tall, look up towards the sky, wipe the tears/rain away from your face, and take on your storm.

No matter who you are, there will be doubt, hate, fear, etc. It’s how we handle it that defines us. The rainbow is there and you may have to fight through the rain, snow, sleet, hail, and ice. Don’t give in, fight through it because that rainbow will lead you to the pot of gold you have been looking for. Just hold tight and muscle through it.

Taking your time to find your gold is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Dealing with the Unknown

Own It!

We all fear the unknown, it is probably one of the scariest things we can’t escape. No matter who you are, many times of your life you are going to face the unknown. For example, which college you are getting into, how are your roommates going to be there, will you get this new job, will the coworkers like you, medical issues, family issues, and relationships. All of these examples throw unknown curve balls at us and it’s how we handle them that make us who we are.

It’s all around us, everyday we go into the world there is some unknown factor that can derail us off the tracks or push up high into the sky. Things you just don’t know can either make us stronger, or break us down. What we need to do, is not let the unknown break us down and cripple us. Like you are facing a strong head wind, you need to stand your ground and walk through the wind at times.

Dealing with your unknown is hard enough, but dealing with your loved ones is very important. The fact is you need to be there for them for their fears of the unknown, they need every bit of courage from you to get them through the scary issues as they help you in the same faucet.

When helping others deal with this fear, you need to hold their hand tell them it will be alright and be there with them on the hard choices that they want you to be apart of. Never ignore the call from a loved one who is reaching out on this certain fear, it’s one that you can’t run from. If you run from helping a loved one, then you’re a coward. Instead grab their hand, help them up, stand tall, face the wind, and start your walk against the strong winds to bring them to the calm sunny days!

The unknown is a hard fear to face alone, but better to face with help. Never be ashamed to ask for a helping hand. Everyone needs it at times and even if you are scared to death, a friend is always waiting. If you are that friend, never turn you back on them, no matter who scared you are too. Show them the strength, your heart, courage, and most importantly your love.

The unknown will never go away, but you can face it. Just remember what is unknown today will be known tomorrow. To focus all of you fear on it, you will learn what needs to be done and conquer that unknown issue. Just one day at a day is all we can do. Stand up and face it head on. The clouds will break way and it will be come clear.

Facing the fear of the unknown is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!