Break the Negative Circle

Follow Me Out of the Dark

In life it is easy to surround ourselves with negative things, people, and places. The tale misery loves company is very very true, and people who are sad want to bring you down with them. On the other end of the specturm, positive loves company too! True it’s easier to give into the pain and fall down the pit of misery and join the people down there.  The reason being is because more people are negative and ready to drag you under then those who are positive trying to pull you up. The question is who do you lean towards the cliffs of despair or the mountain of joy?

The other day I saw someone posting sad thoughts on Facebook about when will life get better and seeing all the response was shocking to me. People actually told this person that, “It may seem like it gets better only to be granted with more and more poo flung at you, cause life is one big giant poo storm.” This right here made me want to tell  that person to stop listening to them and allowing that negative person in their life. Then to that person who sent that response, I wanted to send him some kind words to not be a debbie downer.  Sad part, is you can’t these people to stop being negative, to stop listening to negative feedback,, and to stop sharing negative thoughts.

Today, I will tell all of you about the joys of positive attitudes as I always do. The negative people and feelings will always be there and it is easy to give into the demons of sadness, but you got to stay strong. The will to live keeps us going, the will to be strong keeps us alive, the will to be positive is the answer to one heck of a great life. Yes bad things will happen, but with a positive outlook you can find the silver lining and see how to work through the issue better. As a negative person when something bad happens it is blown out of the water and they are so blinded by negative thoughts that they just sink deeper and deeper without seeing things clearly. The negative person can’t think through the problems cause all they see is the pain, where as a positive person can take the step back and remove what happen and go through the steps one by one to figure out what to do to get through it.

In the end of the day, you can choose to listen to the group of negative people or join the few who are climbing and not listening to the nay sayers. It will seem hard to get rid of the people who are always down, see no light, and want to bring you down with them, but once you are free you will see the world in a different light. My advice is drop the negative in your life, that means all the drama on Facebook you need to close, all the drama at work you need move on from, and all the drama with friends you need to end. Step into the light and out of the darkest to see the beautiful world.

Leaving the darkness is key in this savage world; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!!

 

The Curtain is Down, the Drama is Over

The curtain is closed!

The other day I was enjoying a live show from this band I really enjoy. The crowd was small, but it was supposed to be and it was an all ages show. It wasn’t the band that made the biggest impact there, it was the drama that was aired out publicly in the parking lot afterwards. A son and mother were having a yelling match, the son was scolding his mother in broad daylight, in front of about twenty people, telling her that it’s all her fault.  The men in the crowd drew close to make sure the son didn’t do anything stupid as the bartender ran out to end the drama. Moments later the mother left with her head down and the son walked cocky towards a group of people who shook their head. End of the story, the scene was straight from a movie, but not with a good ending. There were no hugs, no resolution, just a son and mother with issues for the whole world to see, with the son looking like a jerk.

Maybe, I was lucky and didn’t have mommy issues or daddy issues. Maybe I took all the things that could have held me down and used them as fuel to become better and not worried about the past. People, parents, and friends aren’t perfect, they make mistakes and probably don’t realize it at the time.  The end of the day you can’t sit in a corner and blame everyone else for your problem, you are there and it may stink, but it’s your job to get out of the problem. If they caused it, find ways to get out of it and move on. You can’t live your whole life in hate and drama, what does it do for you? Nothing. Yes, I may not of had parent issued, but was bullied and teachers who told me I would never be anything, etc. I used every ounce of energy to become the best person I can be without being a bitter man..

What does leaving in the past do? Keeps you stuck behind the rest of the world. Yes the past is great to remember to know where you come from, great memories, things that failed, things that you learned, etc. Though once the day ends, the curtain is over on that day and it’s time to move on. People are going to hurt you, people may say things in jealous, rage, hate, etc. It’s your job to get out of that issue and yes, I am aware some issues are harder than most to get out, those cases are not the issue today. Trick is you need to remember who you are, build on that for the present and future. Show the world the positive amazing force you have become! Don’t dwell on your pain and sorrow, that just gets you stuck in a dark corner.

Remember that you are an awesome person, no matter what someone else said or did to you. Having issues with you parents, talk to them, don’t yell and don’t do it publicly. Issues with friends or family, tell them, don’t hold it in, but don’t yell and if they start getting mad, end the convo and tell we can talk when they are ready to. Don’t let others bring you down and don’t let others run your life. Drama is overrated, but thanks to Facebook, MTV reality shows, etc. we think drama is great now! Because it’s cool to live life-like a gangsta, being a teen mom, having issues with people, etc. It’s just time people drop the curtain and end the everyday drama and move on.

Life is too short for drama, make it a positive day every day from here on out and if someone tries to bring you down. Tell em no and move on, no one should ever steal your sunshine.

Striving for a drama free life is key  in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

It Flows Down Hill and Time to End It

All the way down!

Every knows that poo flows down hill and somehow the person at the bottom gets hit the hardest with it. In life when people at the top get bad news they somehow manage to take it out on the person below them who in turn take it out on the person below them, etc. till basically we have a giant pile of poo on the last person. Something needs to change if we are the ones doing this or the ones receiving this at the bottom.

As some of you may know, I am a very direct person who doesn’t like poo being thrown at me. I fight for the little guy and try to make sure even when bad news is received on my end not to have it affect my company, friends, and family.

The thing I learned in my time when I actually work for someone else, was that when it rains it pours and personally, didn’t like when it happened. Never wanted to be the person who would lash at others for nothing they did wrong. To many time managers/bosses hold this power of their employees, parents over their kids, and siblings over their siblings. Is it fair of them who have the power to lash out at their underlings, because they got yelled for something they did? No, it’s not fair and we need to fix it.

As a person in power people look up to you and respond to what you do. If you are the type of person who lashes out, rips apart the ones under you, and destroy their positive energy, the thing is you are doing it wrong. That’s right just cause you’re in power does not give you the power to treat others who work hard with you poorly.

For example a manager comes into work yesterday, gets yelled at by her boss because she isn’t doing something right, her kids are annoying her, and she may get a divorce. This manager in turns goes after her workers, yelling at them, closed-door meetings telling them how bad they are messing up, and providing zero positive feedback. Now, how does this make a company look? Pretty darn bad if you ask me.

If you are a manager or person like the manager we read about, then you need to stop. The harm you are doing to your life and/or company is huge. Once you start demoralizing your employees, friends, and family, it will take weeks to years to regain everything you lost in a fit of rage. Why do you ask? Well look at it this way, your employees can’t perform well if they are working in fear or being nagged at every day. You want the best results, give them a good balance of trust and positive vibes.

Once you start that rage you start to break down people you do it to. The pile of poo with rise and rise quickly and do you know how hard it is to clean off a pile poo? Pretty hard and it’s pretty nasty. Those employees that work under you are your lifeline in your job, yea you can throw them under the bus, fire them, etc. but if they are honestly doing a great job, working hard, and doing what is need to be done, you better start looking out for them. Once you throw out that rage and flinging the poo, well that once awesome employee will turn scared, bitter, and hateful. You don’t want that, especially with your best employees, cause once they live and go to your rivals what are you going to do then?

My advice is, if you have a bad day or you get poo flung at you. Don’t respond by flinging more poo, find the problem, talk it out and figure out how to fix it in a productive way. Don’t start throwing bodies under the bus or making everyone around you feel the wraith of your pain. End the trail with you and be the bigger person, that’s when you start to become a better person in the end.

Stopping the pile with you is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!