Busy is Good, Saying Your Busy is Horrible

NOT NOW I AM SOOOOO BUSY!!!!!……(watches the newest youtube craze)

You ever have those friends or people in your life that when ever you ask them how they are doing, they reply with, “Busy!” That’s it, no I am fine thanks for asking, or not really well, just I am busy. Yes this is one of my giant pet peeve because they show a few things, like they aren’t really listening to the question and they don’t care enough to give you an honest response. Being busy is what you are doing, not how you are doing and today, let us talk about it.

This subject has been discussed on here not to long ago and today I want to really stress the damage it can cause. To start things off it when you respond to a how are you questions, with something like busy, not now, etc. you come off like you don’t care. Though you may not see it, but people don’t like being told that someone else is busy when they are reaching out for a conversation. In fact to say Good is shorter then saying I am busy. This really showcase that you don’t care about the person to give them a nice response. Esp in today’s world with texting, facebook, cellphones, it’s easy to reply nicely with I am doing great, but can’t talk now, can we talk later? Instead of BUSY! Really, if you were so busy why did you pick up the phone, read the text, and then reply. Clearly you aren’t that busy.

This brings me to another point today and that is being honest. Facebook can showcase your lies very quickly and easily. You tell a friend you can’t hang out with them one day on the weekend because you are busy with work or family things and then you are tagged by another friend or yourself out with them in something completely different then what you said. Why lie and not say hey, I have plans with other people, isn’t that more understandable? The thing is, you just need to be honest with people, if you don’t want them around or don’t want to talk just tell em, yea it’s mean, but it’s easier then dragging out their friendship hopes, right?

In today’s world people love to sound busy, it makes us feel important. The problem is it really makes you sound like your poo doesn’t stink. Yes, you can say you are busy when people ask you about your job or how is the home life keeping you. But going around with that being your first answer to everything is well damaging.  In life you need to listen to the question before you answer it, don’t respond with just busy all the time. You say it enough, you will soon lose those people you say it too.  Which in the end if you didn’t care about in the first place that’s okay right? Maybe not, because maybe they shouldn’t have been let go.

Today, I ask that you stop responding with the term BUSY all the time. Respond nicely and be honest with the person. Don’t lie about what you are doing, cause Facebook will post you, because you or your drunk friend will post that you’re at Pete’s bar at 1:00 PM, even though you couldn’t go out tonight with the other group of friends because you had to stay home with your friend’s baby all night and day. Just be honest, respond to the right question and stop acting so busy, cause the moment you respond that on text, the moment we all know you just lied.

Being respectful is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

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