Rub Some Dirt In It

Rub it in and Stand up

Wow, it’s been awhile since this old blogger has posted anything and to my readers and followers, I am sorry for the delay. Lets, say my 30th birthday month was well busy. Been everywhere from Boston to Cincinnati to back down to Lexington. The business and personal life has kept me slammed here and that is no excuse for being gone so long. So without further ado, let’s get this Wednesday started off right!

As some of may or may not know, recently I decided it was time to do something big in my life. After 30 years on this Earth, I never ran  a 5k. or more  As they say, go big or go home, well this blogger decided to go big! On October 21, 2012, this guy is running the Tough Mudder in Maysville, KY. Don’t know what the Tough Mudder is? It’s a 12 mile course filled with military grade obstacles. Maybe a little to harsh to start off on, but it needs to be done. This is not a race of any kind but a test of endurance, strength, and will for yourself. This brings me to my point today, rub some dirt it!

What? Rub dirt in it? Dirt in what? You ask. Well, here’s the thing is, I read a lot of times all over the place about this company coming out support a belief you don’t, or you’re tired and sore and don’t wanna do something cause it is too hard, or you just tired of the country you live in and hate this or that. Today, I am telling you to rub some dirt in, stand up, and get back on the horse. You don’t like a belief of a company, great don’t go there or don’t eat there, but don’t cry about it on your Twitter, Facebook, Linkedin, etc account. You are tired and sore, unless you have a medical condition, stop crying, posting on Facebook and other media outlets, truth is NO ONE CARES! So just cowboy up and get back on the weights, job , or whatever you are sore from. Finally the people who hate their country, you hate it so much the border is to the South, North, East, and West go there. But when you live this Freedom you know that cost a small price of rules and taxes is a lot easier than other places, the grass is always greener, so think on that the next you complain.

The trick to a good, easy, enjoyable life is to just let go of the negative. Yes, at times we get down on ourselves, we can get mad and need to blow of steam, that’s okay and healthy. Don’t think you need this 100% positive lifestyle, because you will get mad, sad, upset, etc. It’s how you let it affect your life and the others around you.For example, I post a Good Morning Facebook everyday, people love it or hate , but no matter how someone responds, this post affects them. Though, if they took the time to read it and go, “Hmm, it can be a good morning” and go about their day, then maybe it did it’s trick. So it’s either a good response or a bad response, and if the person thinks of it as a thing to post negative towards or message me in a negative manner about it, then maybe they should rethink their life. Don’t ever spread the hate and negative feelings, the rule goes back to “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Just manners and I think some of us lost that along the way. Sending positive vibes may sound corny, but it helps you and the world around you get along better.

If someone one seems to happy to be true, note they have issues like we all do, they just don’t like to share as much of the pain. This is a lesson in life we need to learn. Pain is temporary and should be seen as that. People who seem to be really happy know this and can master both the negative and positive in their lives to be okay.  Don’t let the world bring you down and don’t bring the rest of the world down with you. Focus on finding ways to make you happy and dumping the negative aspects out of your life. Stop crying about the grass is greener, cause chances are when you go over to that green grass it won’t look so green. The trick to have greener grass, is to work hard on your own yard to have it blossom into greener grass. Nothing comes easy, but with a lot of work and a positive attitude you will see the success.

Today, I want you readers to focus making yourself happy. Write a list of things you want to change over the course of the year and then work on it starting today. In a years time see what you can do. Share it with us, we would love to read about your success.

Rubbing dirt in your wounds and getting back up is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

 

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Break the Negative Circle

Follow Me Out of the Dark

In life it is easy to surround ourselves with negative things, people, and places. The tale misery loves company is very very true, and people who are sad want to bring you down with them. On the other end of the specturm, positive loves company too! True it’s easier to give into the pain and fall down the pit of misery and join the people down there.  The reason being is because more people are negative and ready to drag you under then those who are positive trying to pull you up. The question is who do you lean towards the cliffs of despair or the mountain of joy?

The other day I saw someone posting sad thoughts on Facebook about when will life get better and seeing all the response was shocking to me. People actually told this person that, “It may seem like it gets better only to be granted with more and more poo flung at you, cause life is one big giant poo storm.” This right here made me want to tell  that person to stop listening to them and allowing that negative person in their life. Then to that person who sent that response, I wanted to send him some kind words to not be a debbie downer.  Sad part, is you can’t these people to stop being negative, to stop listening to negative feedback,, and to stop sharing negative thoughts.

Today, I will tell all of you about the joys of positive attitudes as I always do. The negative people and feelings will always be there and it is easy to give into the demons of sadness, but you got to stay strong. The will to live keeps us going, the will to be strong keeps us alive, the will to be positive is the answer to one heck of a great life. Yes bad things will happen, but with a positive outlook you can find the silver lining and see how to work through the issue better. As a negative person when something bad happens it is blown out of the water and they are so blinded by negative thoughts that they just sink deeper and deeper without seeing things clearly. The negative person can’t think through the problems cause all they see is the pain, where as a positive person can take the step back and remove what happen and go through the steps one by one to figure out what to do to get through it.

In the end of the day, you can choose to listen to the group of negative people or join the few who are climbing and not listening to the nay sayers. It will seem hard to get rid of the people who are always down, see no light, and want to bring you down with them, but once you are free you will see the world in a different light. My advice is drop the negative in your life, that means all the drama on Facebook you need to close, all the drama at work you need move on from, and all the drama with friends you need to end. Step into the light and out of the darkest to see the beautiful world.

Leaving the darkness is key in this savage world; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!!

 

The Curtain is Down, the Drama is Over

The curtain is closed!

The other day I was enjoying a live show from this band I really enjoy. The crowd was small, but it was supposed to be and it was an all ages show. It wasn’t the band that made the biggest impact there, it was the drama that was aired out publicly in the parking lot afterwards. A son and mother were having a yelling match, the son was scolding his mother in broad daylight, in front of about twenty people, telling her that it’s all her fault.  The men in the crowd drew close to make sure the son didn’t do anything stupid as the bartender ran out to end the drama. Moments later the mother left with her head down and the son walked cocky towards a group of people who shook their head. End of the story, the scene was straight from a movie, but not with a good ending. There were no hugs, no resolution, just a son and mother with issues for the whole world to see, with the son looking like a jerk.

Maybe, I was lucky and didn’t have mommy issues or daddy issues. Maybe I took all the things that could have held me down and used them as fuel to become better and not worried about the past. People, parents, and friends aren’t perfect, they make mistakes and probably don’t realize it at the time.  The end of the day you can’t sit in a corner and blame everyone else for your problem, you are there and it may stink, but it’s your job to get out of the problem. If they caused it, find ways to get out of it and move on. You can’t live your whole life in hate and drama, what does it do for you? Nothing. Yes, I may not of had parent issued, but was bullied and teachers who told me I would never be anything, etc. I used every ounce of energy to become the best person I can be without being a bitter man..

What does leaving in the past do? Keeps you stuck behind the rest of the world. Yes the past is great to remember to know where you come from, great memories, things that failed, things that you learned, etc. Though once the day ends, the curtain is over on that day and it’s time to move on. People are going to hurt you, people may say things in jealous, rage, hate, etc. It’s your job to get out of that issue and yes, I am aware some issues are harder than most to get out, those cases are not the issue today. Trick is you need to remember who you are, build on that for the present and future. Show the world the positive amazing force you have become! Don’t dwell on your pain and sorrow, that just gets you stuck in a dark corner.

Remember that you are an awesome person, no matter what someone else said or did to you. Having issues with you parents, talk to them, don’t yell and don’t do it publicly. Issues with friends or family, tell them, don’t hold it in, but don’t yell and if they start getting mad, end the convo and tell we can talk when they are ready to. Don’t let others bring you down and don’t let others run your life. Drama is overrated, but thanks to Facebook, MTV reality shows, etc. we think drama is great now! Because it’s cool to live life-like a gangsta, being a teen mom, having issues with people, etc. It’s just time people drop the curtain and end the everyday drama and move on.

Life is too short for drama, make it a positive day every day from here on out and if someone tries to bring you down. Tell em no and move on, no one should ever steal your sunshine.

Striving for a drama free life is key  in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Beautiful Day

Embrace the new day!!

What a beautiful day it is today and how great it can be, no matter where you are in the world. What? You say it looks gloomy and sad out? Are we not seeing the same thing? Probably not even if we were in the same town, I could see a beautiful sunny day and you can see a hot muggy ugly day.  It’s all the perception that we have as we go throughout our days.  It’s like the glass half full or half empty, how you see it is how you see the world around you. Today’s lets talk about this and the world we know.

Yes, I know this positive stuff gets annoying to some people and it’s sounds like a lot of work.  It’s easier to be down and sad, you can curl up into a little ball, cry, and think the world is ugly and gray. Today though that needs to end and you need to get out from under your ball and face the world to see that it is not as ugly as you make it. The world is how you mold it, yes there are bad factors in the world that can and will bring you down, but that is not your life. When bad things we have to do the right things that need to be done to fix it or grief over it.

Trick is in life is that when bad things happen, you need to get out of the hole you are in.  People will be mean to you, the sky may look to fall on top of you, and all seems wrong. This doesn’t mean the day is ugly or the world is ugly, instead it just means things are going the right way.  This will happen from time to time, but focusing on how to make it better and just know that the day is always beautiful will make it easier in the long run.

To touch on the earlier aspect of people annoyed with positive people, because it’s well probably annoying to a negative person or it just seems hard. If being positive is an annoying thing to be, then sorry rest of the world, positive attitudes make the biggest difference in our society. If you think it is too hard to be positive, then I want you to think of a world where you aren’t crying, yelling, fighting, etc all the time. Now image that not a factor in your life that much, picture just being happy and not fighting or crying every day. Sounds a little easier now right? Just makes the day a little bit more beautiful.

I know sometimes it seems like there is no help and you are stuck at the bottom of the well.  When then happens what you need to do is stand up, get motivated to find the way out, get out and do what you need to do. Once you are free from what ever is keeping you down in the dark well, then you will be free and able to enjoy the sun and beautiful days around you!

Enjoying the beautiful days is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Beautiful Morning

This morning I woke up a little tired, but with this great sense of joy.  Usually in the morning I wake up pretty happy, but today, there was just this special feeling in the air. After getting ready and almost out the door, there was the one need to walk the pups before leaving for the office. Midnight and Pesky do this on a daily routine and it’s one of the most interesting moments of the day, the dogs can either be all crazy and hard to walk, or just walking at a nice pace enjoying the morning. Today was the nice pace for the dogs and really it was one of those mornings where it just feels like everything is coming together.

What’s the point of that little story you ask? What was the point of Monday’s post? Well, it’s time to go into why we had Monday’s post and today’s little story. Lets start off with Monday and how to start the week off right. This Monday, we spoke about how important it is to have a great start to the week and to be positive. Here’s example number of the post, Monday here was pretty amazing, everyone was really positive at the office and amazing things started to be put in play. Tuesday came along piggybacking of Monday and brought in some major key items, that lead to Wednesday, which is now a very important day this week for us. This all started because Monday, was kicked started with the positive energy of all the people in the office.

Now the story of the beautiful day and everything clicking in the morning. Reason for the story is to continue to focus on the good throughout the week and everyday. Why wake up grumpy and mad at the world, when you can wake up happy? Life is to short to focus on bad thoughts of the day before, it’s in the past now and we are in the present to move forward in life.

Every morning try to find some kind of beauty, push through the negative filters of the social media and physical world. Things aren’t that bad and can always be worse. You’re life is what you make it, so if you get out a bed every morning with a big giant grin on your face, your life will be even better.

Finding the beauty every morning is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

The Hardest Part of Waking Up

Wake up and smell the coffee

The hardest part of waking up, is getting that first foot out of your bed. It’s hard to leave the comfort of the comfy bed, covered in blankets, and head on a comfy pillow. The annoyance of getting out of those warm protective sheets is hard. Totally understand that, but today we should talk about why it’s okay to get out and moving.

The morning is the best part of the day, everything is just coming into focus, birds are usually singing, and it’s just the best way to pace your day. Tired in the morning, I understand most people are. Not a morning person, okay, that’s fine, but you have to work on that, harsh, I know but being a morning person is pretty important.

Think of it this way, you hate the morning because it takes you out of your dreams, comfy bed, and safety of the blankets. That is the only reasons why you really hate mornings most likely. It’s an irrational hate, because mornings are just a time of day. Getting up and moving clears up the fog in your head from your dream state.

It’s hard to do, I know. It’s easier to stay in bed longer and then act crappy till you get the first sip of coffee. It is not fair to act crappy and mean in the morning, because it’s the morning. The thing is, it’s the morning, we know it’s hard for people, but it’s not an excuse to act all mean. Bitter morning people, turn into bitter afternoon people, which turn into bitter night people, because it’s okay to be moody in the morning.

Here’s my tip today on mornings. Before you wake up and get out of bed, look around, see what makes you smile. For me, it looking at my beautiful wife, my two sleeping pups, pictures on the wall, etc. Then think about the day ahead and how great it can be. From then on all you have to do is force yourself out of bed and face the day, things will be great! It will be okay, face the day with a great attitude and you will see that mornings, aren’t so bad.

Being a morning person is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Don’t Squash My Positive Day

Don't Rain on my Parade

Positive people have one issue they always have to worry about and that is the negative people trying to squash the vibe.  Are you one of those people who see a positive post and just get upset when you see it? Do you want to just crush that person a little bit, because darn it they are just too happy? Well, I think it’s time we have a talk.

Here’s the thing to the negative people of the world, it’s time to just smile. This life is too short to continue to be down and talk about how horrible this and that is. Bad things happen, we get it, but you don’t need to continue to share to a world who doesn’t want to listen. Now, I am not saying hold it all inside, talk out issues with close friends and loved ones as they are near (Not on Facebook or Twitter).

If you see someone happy, don’t get mad at them or blast them because they found something to be happy about. So you don’t like Mondays and probably hates that this blogger post that he loves Mondays, don’t rain on his parade because you hate the day or thing he is talking about it. Misery loves company is the old saying, but being happy loves company too, so why not just skip the drama and come over to the good side of life.

Too many times, I see someone happy and in return a negative person slamming them to the ground because that negative person isn’t in “the mood” to deal with happy-go-lucky. Drama in life is just drama, it can be avoided if you just handed things like a grown up. Crying about your issues doesn’t fix them, doing something about your issues does.

The thing is people we all live together in this world, why do we feel the need to steal from others who make a little more? Why do we feel the need to cut others down because they are “different” from you? Why? Why? Why? We are just really hurting ourselves the way we hurt others. By stealing you hurt your community, by killing you hurt the population, by bullying people, you make the world bitter. Why would you want to do that?

As kids bullying isn’t good, but we can get away with it because we are young and stupid, as long as it doesn’t go to far. Though as you grow older it is less okay to do things like that, because you do know better. No one likes a bully and if they do, it’s cause of a sad fear. Don’t talk down to others anymore, it’s time be a helpful tool to society and not fall into the bully department.

Just remember the old saying, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. It goes a long way and trust me you will be happy in the end with everyone else.

Being a positive force is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

 

It Flows Down Hill and Time to End It

All the way down!

Every knows that poo flows down hill and somehow the person at the bottom gets hit the hardest with it. In life when people at the top get bad news they somehow manage to take it out on the person below them who in turn take it out on the person below them, etc. till basically we have a giant pile of poo on the last person. Something needs to change if we are the ones doing this or the ones receiving this at the bottom.

As some of you may know, I am a very direct person who doesn’t like poo being thrown at me. I fight for the little guy and try to make sure even when bad news is received on my end not to have it affect my company, friends, and family.

The thing I learned in my time when I actually work for someone else, was that when it rains it pours and personally, didn’t like when it happened. Never wanted to be the person who would lash at others for nothing they did wrong. To many time managers/bosses hold this power of their employees, parents over their kids, and siblings over their siblings. Is it fair of them who have the power to lash out at their underlings, because they got yelled for something they did? No, it’s not fair and we need to fix it.

As a person in power people look up to you and respond to what you do. If you are the type of person who lashes out, rips apart the ones under you, and destroy their positive energy, the thing is you are doing it wrong. That’s right just cause you’re in power does not give you the power to treat others who work hard with you poorly.

For example a manager comes into work yesterday, gets yelled at by her boss because she isn’t doing something right, her kids are annoying her, and she may get a divorce. This manager in turns goes after her workers, yelling at them, closed-door meetings telling them how bad they are messing up, and providing zero positive feedback. Now, how does this make a company look? Pretty darn bad if you ask me.

If you are a manager or person like the manager we read about, then you need to stop. The harm you are doing to your life and/or company is huge. Once you start demoralizing your employees, friends, and family, it will take weeks to years to regain everything you lost in a fit of rage. Why do you ask? Well look at it this way, your employees can’t perform well if they are working in fear or being nagged at every day. You want the best results, give them a good balance of trust and positive vibes.

Once you start that rage you start to break down people you do it to. The pile of poo with rise and rise quickly and do you know how hard it is to clean off a pile poo? Pretty hard and it’s pretty nasty. Those employees that work under you are your lifeline in your job, yea you can throw them under the bus, fire them, etc. but if they are honestly doing a great job, working hard, and doing what is need to be done, you better start looking out for them. Once you throw out that rage and flinging the poo, well that once awesome employee will turn scared, bitter, and hateful. You don’t want that, especially with your best employees, cause once they live and go to your rivals what are you going to do then?

My advice is, if you have a bad day or you get poo flung at you. Don’t respond by flinging more poo, find the problem, talk it out and figure out how to fix it in a productive way. Don’t start throwing bodies under the bus or making everyone around you feel the wraith of your pain. End the trail with you and be the bigger person, that’s when you start to become a better person in the end.

Stopping the pile with you is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

 

 

Enjoying the Sun

Spread your arms wide open!

In 2011, here in the city I live of Lexington, KY it was named the wettest year on record. That being said, we didn’t see a lot of sun this past year, though we had some beautiful days. It was a trick that we had to do to find the sun through the rain clouds, it was called just finding the sun.

Like the wettest year on record history for Kentucky, many people see every year as their rainfall. It’s sometimes hard to see the sun out there in this crazy world. If you are one of those people who can’t seem to grab the sun everyday. When the sun comes for you, enjoy it! Spread your arms out wide and let the sun’s warmth consume you.

As much as I can tell you how to always find the sun, sometimes it truly is hard when you are slammed with bad weather all the time. It may seem that the rain just doesn’t stop, but it will. Trust me, as you embrace the beautiful weather when it comes this life will become easier. As you embrace the sun, you will notice the rain clouds go further away with each passing day.

Just think if you embrace the good aka the sun, your life can be so much easier. Instead of embracing the drama of the rain, allow the sun to shine for you. Embrace it and take control of your weather!

Embracing the sun is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!

Don’t Let the Rain Takeover

Fend em off

You know how sometimes the weather outside can affect your mood? Same is for how people in your life affect you. This goes from your coworkers in your office to your family and friends in you every day life.  Today, lets discuss this and see how to make sure we don’t let the outside world take over our everyday life.

Lets start off with an example today about this topic. Say you are at work,  your boss comes in all stressed, because he or she is annoyed with something that is happening at home. She/he then turns around to take it out on you and your team. She/he yells, points fingers, and slams doors. This probably doesn’t help you feel better about yourself, huh? How do we handle days like this?

Here’s the trick to surviving issues like the one above with your boss or anyone else who does this. Block it out, just because they can’t handle their emotions doesn’t mean it should ruin your day. Ignore what they are doing, just nod and smile if they are going on a rant. Be there for them, but don’t take the abuse. If they attack you personally, make sure to leave before you say something you regret. Just focus on what you have to do for the day and what makes you happy.

Thing is, misery loves company a lot, the more the merrier for them. Most people who are upset don’t know how to handle their emotions and lash out quickly without thinking. They may not even realize they are hurting people they care for.  You can fight back and have a giant yelling match or you can be the bigger person and go okay, that’s how want to handle it than handle it that way. Just don’t let them bring you to their level.

It’s easy to fall into someone’s downward spiral and get involved in their every day drama. That I am truly aware of, but you can fight it with your positive attitude and holding your head up high. It’s hard, but it can be done. It’s almost human nature to try to bring people down when you’re upset, because you want people to feel crappy like you. Remember that, next time your boss or best friend comes in slamming everything around and having a little hissy.

Not falling into the drama of others is key in this Savage World; that you are no longer just living in, but beginning to own!